we've been trying for months?

Question

what are some other way's to help us conceive. the doctor says we are both able to have baby's but i dont see that its happening.. Please help..

Answer 1

Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.

2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.

Answer 2

Infertility is defined as the inability to conceive after 1 year of trying to have a baby. Many healthy couples who will eventually conceive can take up to a year, just due to the timing of sex and the luck of the draw.

The advice to relax is good if there really are no problems, but it won't do much good if you do have undiagnosed fertility issues. There are many issues that could cause infertility that your regular doctor could not detect. It is good to be proactive about your reproductive health, and if after a year(inlcuding the months you have already tried), you still haven't conceived, I would recommend seeing a reproductive endocronlogist.

Here is what I would recommend (you may have already tried some of these steps):
1) Get a Clearblue Easy fertility monitor-it tells you the exact days to have sex
2) Using the monitor, try for six months-your partner should not be doing anything that could harm the sperm, like hot tubbing or bike riding.
3) If still nothing, make an appointment with an RE. Get sperm analysis for him, and a general ultrasound for you to detect possible fibroid tumors or ovarian abnormalities.
4) If given the OK, try Clomid. It is a great way to speed up the getting pregnant process, and it works for a large percentage of women who have been having trouble TTC .
5) Last, IVF. I bet you won't have to get to this point, but success rates are getting better every month.

Remember, it is your body and if you are concerned about something, definitely take action. Too many women "relax" about getting pregnant, but time IS an issue. WIth 1 our of every 5 couples in the US suffering from infertility, it isn't as rare as most people think, but the good news is that most women have success eventually with relatively little cost and effort involved.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

It sounds like you are ovulating and he has an adequate sperm count right? So the problem may be getting that sperm to that egg.
Try a product called pre-seed.
http://preseed.com/
You can buy it at Drugstore.com or on Amazon. It is a lubricant that mimics natural lubrication at peak fertility. It actually nourishes sperm so that more of them have the chance of making it to the egg. I used this after months of trying and it worked the first time. It also worked for a few of my clients (I'm a Doula).
Try and relax about it (I know, easier said then done), but sometimes the anticipation around the time of ovulation can release enough stress hormones that your body resists pregnancy as if it where waiting until things calm down to get pregnant.
Having your husband take Zinc and vit C and E can increase the quality of his sperm, a man can have a high sperm count that is of no use if they can't swim properly. And remember that sperm take 3 months to develop, so if he started taking supplements now, you would expect a higher quality sperm in about 13 weeks (forever, I know). I hope this helps.

Answer 4

Look at some of the practical things.

- If you are using a lubricant like KY Jelly, switch to Astroglide... as KY has a mild contraceptive effect.

- Reduce or eliminate caffiene in your diet.

- Chart your period and look for your fertile days. Have sex on alternate days to allow the sperm count to be higher.

It can take 6-12 months to concieve... even when doing everything right.. but if you are older than 30 and it has been more than six months, see an obgyn about it and get a second opinion.

Answer 5

To get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 6

maybe you should not stress so much about it. Just have fun and forget that you are even trying to make a baby, that way some of the pressure will be off and maybe things will just happen on it's own. have you ever notice it's the ones who arent trying that get pregnant and the ones who are so consumed and stressed about it that have sucha hard time?

Answer 7

RELAX BOTH OF YOU. DON'T THINK JUST LET YOURSELF GO. WAIT UNTIL YOU OVULATE BETTER.

I AM GOING TO TELL YOU THIS.
CHECK THE CHINESE PREGNANCY CHART.
THE CHINESE CONCEPTION CHART, ALSO KNOWN AS THE CHINESE PREGNANCY CALENDAR, IS SUPPOSED TO PREDICT WHETHER YOU WILL HAVE A GIRL OR BOY.
THE ORIGINAL CHINESE PREGNANCY CHART WAS BURIED IN A ROYAL TOMB NEARLY ONE THOUSAND YEARS AGO.

IT'S EASY ENOUGH TO USE: JUST FIND THE LINE ON THE PREGNANCY CALENDAR THAT EQUATES TO YOUR AGE AND MOVE ALONG UNTIL YOU REACH THE MONTH IN WHICH YOU CONCEIVED. IF YOU'RE 21 , ACCORDING TO THE BIRTH CHART THERE'S NOT MUCH CHANCE OF A BOY.

THE SEX OF NEPHEW, AND NIECE WAS ACCURATELY PREDICTED.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

timing is everything. you only have 12 to 24 hrs to conceive after ovulation so sperm need to be waiting on that egg to drop.

Answer 9

try not to stress too much-I know that's hard. try an ovulation prediction kit if you haven't already. I wasn't getting pregnant and it took a fluke to realize that I was ovulating late. good luck to you

Answer 10

let it go, don't think about it and it will just happen. i am having the same problem but i just have to let it go, the more you think about getting pregnant the more stress your putting on you body.

Let god do his job.
good luck!!!!