i found a pragnancy test in the garbage can. i think it's my sisters. what should i do?
(she's 14!)
2006-10-25 17:01:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There certainly could be a number of explanations, including the one that worries you.
Tell your sister what you found and ask her if it's hers. If she says YES, then be supportive and tell her you'll sit with her while she talks to your folks.
If she says it's not hers, then she certainly won't mind if you tell your parents what you found (this will help to sort out if she's lying).
If she admits it's hers but says the test was negative, you still need to tell your folks. If she thought she was pregnant, then she's having unprotected sex, which demonstrates that she's not mature enough to have an intimate relationship, nor is she mature enough to be pregnant and have a child. Bottom line, 14-year olds should not be having sex, period. You're only cheating yourself of enjoying something really wonderful when you finally meet the man you want to spend the rest of your life with... what a wonderful gift to be able to say you waited for him.
But back to the problem... give her a chance to tell your parents herself, but give her a reasonable deadline of 24 hours and stick to it. If she's pregnant, she may try to stall you until she can think of something else (like a secret abortion), so you have to be strong and determined.
The most important thing is that she knows you love her and you're not doing this to hurt her, but rather to help her. It's gonna be among the hardest things you'll do in your life, but think of ALL the possible scenarios: What if you do nothing and it turns out badly? You're going to wish you'd told your parents. You don't want to live with any kind of guilt for something that you could have helped to prevent.
Good luck... I'll say a prayer for your family.
2006-10-25 17:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by princessmeltdown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about it and offer support and advice. I was a younger sister and one day I found a pregnancy test in the trash and it was positive. I went and tattled (I was 13 and my sister was 18) and my mom laughed in my face because my sister's friend had been over to our house the day before after school and my mom helped the girl get a pregnancy test and allowed her to take it at our house. So I looked like a dummy. Just ask her and tell her you aren't there to judge her and that you will help her if she needs it. And help her to tell your parents when the time is right.
2006-10-26 00:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your mom is living with you, it may be your mothers. talk to your sister, don't sound accusing, just say, "guess what? I found a p test in the trash... do you know whose it could be?" if she acts weird while saying no, try saying "I'm not accusing you, but I'm just curious... do you want to talk or anything? I would not tell anyone." if she says it is hers, talk for a bit, and then (if it is positive, explain to her the best thing to do is you both go to your parent(s) and discuss what to do. if it is negative, and it is hers, maybe you two could discuss abstinence or protected sex for a bit. (this usually will work if your the OLDER, wiser sister) you didnt state wether you were older or not... if you are younger, don't go to your parents without her permission, you may regret it, and lose her trust. if it IS your mothers... if its positive, im sure youll find out soon enough.
Hope I helped! good luck...
2006-10-26 00:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mary Moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? What is your realtionship with sis like, is there trust and friendship there? Maybe you'd like to try this:
Tell her you found it, you think it might be hers, and is there anything you can do to give her support or help. After that you'll know if you (or she) want to tell your parents or somebody else (sis might know a mature person to talk to who has her-sis's-best interests at heart). Best wishis for a happy outcome.
2006-10-26 00:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Ask calmly and honestly if it's hers. If the test is positive offer her support and guidence (without being judgemental!) If the test is negative then see if you help get her on birthcontrol (need a parents permission). GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-26 00:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by chairkiss_silver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why are you digging around in the trash that's like nasty, but anyway just ask your sister about it. I'm sure she would confide in you and tell you the truth. Then you two need to make the decision together to go to your parents about it. But what the killer part is if what if it turns out to be your mom's???
2006-10-26 00:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by missmozee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should ask her, but don't judge her, let her know her options, adoption, or maybe your parents would help raise the baby. My mother helped me when I got prengant at 17. Tell her she needs to let your mother know about it, she can't hide it forever.
2006-10-26 00:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by Robin W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, but under no circumstances tell your parents without her permission!
2006-10-26 00:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and her first. If she wants to talk to the parents then do so.
2006-10-26 00:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her about it..... if she thinks your nuts for thinking its hers, then just tell her you were worried.
if i were you i would hold off on telling your parents until after you know just in case its not hers.
2006-10-26 00:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by Marsha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋