even though I am married with a child now. I don't know why I still think about this old boyfriend, even dream about him sometimes, except that our relationship was very intense, although short. We almost got married - and I'm glad we did not, it would have been a huge mistake.
I love my husband very, very much and I feel almost unfaithful thinking about someone else. How do I get this old boyfriend out of my head for good?
2006-10-25 16:59:43 · 10 answers · asked by emmyfair 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look him up. Find out what he's up to. Make sure he's either married and successful or broke and single, but look him up girl, or you'll always wonder. Once you find out, congratulate yourself on
A. Your faithfulness
B. How smart you were not to end up with him
and
C. Your detective skills.
NOW...
If he's single and successful...run!!!
(which way, she says? LOL)
seriously, talk to your mom. She'll know what to do.
2006-10-25 17:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not being unfaithful. There is nothing wrong with recalling your past (especially when it brings pleasant memories). But if you feel like you have the need to call him and rekindle something, then it's gone too far.
There's no need to tell your husband about it...but your normal life activities will soon replace these current thoughts of your ex-boyfriend. Just enjoy the smiles that come with the history...and then refocus on the present!
2006-10-26 00:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural for us all to dream about what "might have been"...that doesn't mean that you love your husband or your life any less, you're only human. It took me alot of years to get my first true love out of my head, but time did help things fade. I think you just have to smile when you have these thoughts and then be thankful for what you do have now and that you realize being with your ex would have been a mistake...and then go give your hubbie a big hug and kiss!
2006-10-26 00:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
EASY,,, just think about WHY yall broke up,, you must have called off the marriage for some reasons.. Think about what it was about him that you could not stand,.. I AGREE with the earlier answer that you are FANTASIZING,, if you were with your old boyfriend for a while, CERTAINLY there would be problems and it would not be perfect and dreamy as you are IMAGINING it would be... THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU DIDNT LIKE ABOUT HIM !!!
You should not tell your spouse about this ( but do not lie to him either)
2006-10-26 01:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by jr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have so much ahead of you now. Tell yourself it is time to move on. Think about the things you can do with what you have now. Make goals for yourself and shoot for the things you want to become reality.
2006-10-26 00:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by rfriend306 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's probably the "what ifs" and the fantasy that you may have created in your head about him. It's exciting. It doesn't mean it's real. You just need to bring yourself down to reality, I think. It'll happen...
2006-10-26 00:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youre so not over him. But yeah it must be hard. Start doing more things with your hubby and go places etc...do anything that's going to help you NOT look back on your past
2006-10-26 00:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Rooster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband about the guy. He'll understand, then it'll be off your chest, and it will be easier to forget.
2006-10-26 00:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by MEGAWALRUS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT NORMAL TO STILL HAVE FEELING FOR SOMEONE THAT
YOU HAD STRONG FEELING FOR EVEN IF IT WAS SHORT
LIVED.. BUT NOW THAT YOU ARE HAPPY MARRIED. START
THING ABOUT HOW GOOD YOUR LIFE IS RIGHT NOW.
2006-10-26 00:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pray about it, i know you love you wouldn't be thinking about his feelings.
2006-10-26 00:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by sweet sexy san 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋