i just lost my mom?

Question

what should is do if i just lost my mom and people keep saying that it is okay and it will be fine. but they do not under stand please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I'm sorry. I too lost my mother.

People are just trying (and failing miserably) to make you feel better. Most people don't realize that you can't make someone "feel better" when someone they love and care for dies.
It is just human nature to try to find words that will help you with your pain, and I know, there are no words.

You need to find in yourself the strength to understand that death, no matter how terrible, is a part of life. Your mom had you, she had your love and really when you boil down this thing called life, that is the most we can ask for is to love someone and be loved back.

I am sorry for your loss and your pain.

Answer 2

Baby u haven't lost ur mother, she just went ahead of u. It is so hard to have a loved one, especially a mother, depart. Mine departed this world almost 12 yrs. ago and it seems like yesterday. I often think of my mother. I miss the hell out of her and the pain doesn't get easier, we just learn to live with it. Honey prayer even though it sounds corny helps. Also talking to ur mom and asking her questions that will eventually be answered as time goes by. She'll talk to u and with u often if u believe.. She will always be with u through all the times u will face good and bad. She has influenced ur life so much that it will be hard to do anything that she would've never approved of, u'll see. Write, keep a journal about ur times with ur mother good and bad. Keep the memory fresh and write often about her it may not ever be "okay" but it will get easier to understand where she's at and why she had to depart so early from this life. Go to The Dragonfly Project.com and they will be glad to send u some poems about dealing with grief. Keep those memories fresh and God bless, my child, God bless.

Answer 3

I lost my mom, my best friend. People care and so they say things trying to help you deal with this. The only thing i found that has helped me is time. You never stop missing them but you do have something that will be with you always and that's your mom's memory. I can still hear my mom's voice in my mind and see the look on her face when she'd get disgusted. ;o) I'm sorry for you loss but all I can really say is hang in there OK. With each day it will get a little easier.

Answer 4

My heart goes out to Rose, but its always been my belief that we don't as Hyman's lose people. And what I mean by this is you may have "lost" your mother in a physical sense, but just know sweetie the very best part of your mother still lives in you babe. And any time you want to see her, or talk with her you can still do so babe just look into your heart and keep your head to the sky. Your mother is in a beautiful place now, and she is still watching over u so please sweetie try not to cry. For u will see her in a physical being again, its just the next time you see her. She will be even more beautiful then you last remember. Stay strong Love and may God be with you.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you lost your mother...I lost mine 4 years ago. I don't know how old you are but it is harder when you are young because you need her for so many things and have much to share with her. People don't really know how you feel but they mean well. They really don't know what to say but have hope you will be okay. Your mom is gone from your sight but never from your heart and mind. You can still talk to her...and when you need answers ask yourself how she would respond. Keep her picture on your bureau and in your wallet and some of her things. I kept lots of things, even raggy things of my mom cuz she sometimes wore them with holes when she got older, a pair of red shoes she liked. I keep her nighties hanging up near my washer/dryer as reminders of her even when I'm in the basement doing stuff. She is always with me and never leaves. I talk about her all the time too and quote her often. She would not want you to be sad or lonely and missing her physical presence. I am a mother now and my biggest worry is how my son will survive when I am gone. So I teach him everything I can. If he likes cream of brocolli soup I make sure he learns how I made it so he will never be without his comfort food. I have this littlle sign in my kitchen that says, "Mirror, mirror on the wall, I'm like my mother afterall." Just remember her and all the things she taught you and that will be her happiness...and your salvation in the end. Good luck and just take the sorrow one day at a time and know she loved you dearly and would not want you to be sad. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Honey it will be okay and I know that nobody can replace her and when holidays come around it will hurt and it will be this way for a while but you have to take it one day at a time. Eventually you will be able to deal. I think that you might be angry with your mom for leaving you and that is normal just try to understand the people want you to know that they are there for you and would do anything to help. Good luck.

Answer 7

I lost my mother 9 years ago and it still hurts and I still miss her terribly. People try to be kind, they don't mean to be insenstive. The next time someone says "oh it will be fine", just politely say, "Thank you for caring, but no, it will never be fine for me." You might be surprised, that might open the door to being able to talk about your grief. In fact, I went to a grief couselor and it really helped. Look it up in the paper. Having someone to talk through your grief will ease the pain and sorrow. It will never go away completely, but you'll be able to deal with it better. Believe me.

Answer 8

They are just trying to console you and also themselves because they really dont know what to say to you, and unless they loss a parent, they dont really understand how you really feel. No one can understand the despair you feel unless you have experienced the loss. Is your dad alive, or do you have a brother? You need to talk to someone who also experienced your loss- any member of your family that you feel the closest to. They are experiencing your loss and would be able to help you as well as you can help them. If you do not have any other family member, please call your clergy (if you are religious) and if not, call your local mental health center - they will have grief counselors to help you through this horrible time. Im sorry for your loss, you dont say your age, but I feel you are young- if you are in school, see if your guidance counselor can help you.

Answer 9

first i 'm very sorry for your loss . i lost my dad about four years ago . people will say Lott's of things to try to take away the pain . nothing will ever really take that away i think about my father allot and still cry at the slightest image in my mind of him . this is normal and its just being human don't hide your feelings it only makes it worse . take it a day at a time and try to stay strong the fact that you have folks around you that care enough to try to comfort you is your best as sett . good luck and god bless

Answer 10

I just wife to brain cancer February 22 and just week before our 42 years of marriage.its most hardest thing to go through and than 12 years ago loosing my oldest son to car accident. your never the same person.jusr one struggle one day after next. sometimes I just don't know how get through I feel so lost and scared confused and mad. its good think good thaughts.think about my wife no longer pain heart break everything u feel on earth here. I do belive we as family will meet again.