Female pre-menopausal lack of interest? Is this true? Don't you still love your husband and do it anyway??

Answer 1

Make sex more interesting and then you will want to do it more. It is all in the mind.

Answer 2

I could turn your question around and ask, "Don't you still love your wife? Don't you want to try to understand her and give her a break or is getting off more important to you?"

It would help to answer your question if I knew if there are kids involved. If so you must realize that the hormones during and after pregnancy fluctuate so much and take so long to re-adjust at times that it's very "normal" for a woman to lack interest in sex. Besides the fact that her body is recuperating from having a kid she now has the additional responsibility of taking care of the kid and that's a 24/7 job.

As for "lack of interest" I think it's just God's way of taking focus off of self long enough to focus on the new life that needs so much time and attention. Men have a hard time grasping that. Men don't want baby or wife to come first. You guys tend to be selfish.

We also suffer from lack of self-esteem at times and just don't feel "sexy" after babies. The body is never the same and we know how important that is to a man.

Of course I still love my husband and we compromise but that's something that can't happen until and unless the communication is freely flowing.

Answer 3

It has nothing to do with love. I'm almost 36 and I am in chemically induced menopause (due to cancer). It was painful, tiring, and more often than not I couldn't wait for it to end - I needed sleep after working all day, taking care of the house, and dealing with meds. I did love my husband but didn't realize how important sex, or at least intimacy, is to a healthy relationship. The changes to my libido were not addressed by any of my doctors. My libido slowly came back but it was too late - he had already left for someone else. And there were problems other than that that my DH never shared - such as his bipolar disease.
There are things ways to help you both get through this - compromise is a huge part of it. There are supplements (Evening primrose oil will often increase libido and help with lubrication issues. Vitamin E will help with some of the uncomfortabe side effects - hot flashes, etc., Omega 3 with DHA and EPA will sometimes help with memory issues caused by the decrease in estrogen she is experiencing). Another option is bio-identical hormone replacement. It is expensive and usually not covered by insurance. A good read on this is The Sexy Years by Suzanne Somers.

Answer 4

I'm not pre-menopausal, but I do remember when my husband was more interested in sex than I was. I never withheld my body from him and never denied him what he wanted.
That's part of that whole love thing, sometimes we need to do things for our partner that isn't necessarily what we want to be doing at the time.

Answer 5

That may be true for some but that wasn't my experience. I am 60 and I haven't had a period in 10 years or so but I still have an interest in sex. I take Estroven which helps a lot. Talk to your doctor.

Answer 6

yes i hav found i have lost intrest in sex,,, yes i still do it anyways cause i married a great guy,, he says i don;t have to but i feel bad for him wheni keep pushing him away,,,

Answer 7

Sometimes we don't always have that urgent need but it's not fair to let our mood swings affect the boys ...they always seem to be swinging in the direction of hot to go...lol.................