2006-10-25 16:35:07 · 12 answers · asked by Aranel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
See this little dogginz in my avatar. He has helped me through my "empty nest syndrome" and now he's helping me with a long term relationship breakup. My answer is get a dog if you can.
2006-10-25 16:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by tarro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step of curing the pain is to realize the course of action you need to take. For me I'm finding it very difficult out of my love for my ex. She left me for a previous love, and it was a very quick departure from my life. She even said I did nothing wrong and she didn't mean to hurt me. I have mixed feelings she will return to me one day. However, at some point I and yourself will have to come to grips with it and say, ok, that's enough it's over. I may still love this person, but they don't feel the same way for me anymore. I know you and myself and everyone else will find someone else out there. It's hard, I know as I'm going through it. What makes it very very hard is if you are in a situation where it might not actually be "over". Then it's a wait and see, wait for that person kind of deal. I've been able to get over relationships where it ended nicely and it was clear there was not going to be a future. But on this one, I was left hanging with all these questions and my heart still totally open and in love with this person. So closing it has been a difficult task.
If you want to cure your pain, then ask yourself this... is it over for good? If so, then accept it, and each second after that will be better. If it's not over or you have a strong feeling in your heart it isn't over, then I don't know what to tell you. When I find the answer I'll happily share it. But to let your loved one go even if you feel in your heart, you will be with that person again, is such a hard thing to do. What if that other person does come back to you in sincerity and you've moved on in your life? I'd hate for that to happen as then I'd regret not waiting. But there's no way to know if or when a situation like this happens. Time does heal your pain, but it's not easy getting to the point where you know you're healed.
2006-10-26 00:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kruton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put, we do not. If that person has touched your soul you will forever feel their absence. But as with anything worth having, and what is more worth having than love, we make sacrifices--after awhile you realize the pain isn't gone but you are now free to persue, participate in, and maybe even enjoy those things and people you may haven up in the process of falling in love. There are reasons to go on but mourn the death of the relationship wholly so the healing process can begin. The scar of that pain will never fully quit hurting, even if it's just a melancholy moment once a year, the old hurts will be poignant and painful and for about 2 seconds you'll think it's killing you ll over again--but it won't.
2006-10-25 23:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by bootienme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to get through the day. One day at a time. Then you have to have hope. Last September, my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. For like a month straight, I could barely eat or sleep. I lost 20 pounds. I felt like crying constantly. I didn't think I'd get through it. But guess what? I did. I am now married. If someone had told me a year ago that I would be married by this time this year, I would've NEVER believed it!
You'll see. Things will turn out. Everything happens for a reason!
2006-10-25 23:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kipling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time sometimes is the only cure. Try to use this experience to make you a better, stronger person in your next relationship. Or use time to realize why that person was not right for you so you don't get into another relationship that will end the same way.
2006-10-26 03:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People speak against this because it's not the answer, but I think it helps us get through the moment. Find someonelse.
2006-10-25 23:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by precious girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depression its what i called it or my magic diet cause i would lose 30 to 40 pounds in a break up
2006-10-25 23:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by Femme Fatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make yourself busy n tired by doing stuff...and it really takes some time to forget / let go / move on..
so..just give yourself times to heal...... the pain n the stupid feelings will go / fade eventually...
2006-10-25 23:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by bLuR.? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl i try to for get them, yes i no its hard. but i try to talk to friends about it and put my self out here again and i try to do things for myself. i eat pint of icecrean the go run it off. i keep myself buzy so i can try to for get them, and over time ur heart will heal
2006-10-25 23:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to move on and start dating again
2006-10-25 23:44:44 · answer #10 · answered by jazzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋