When you havent grown up with him, or even really known him, except for pictures. If I were to meet him in a club or a store not knowing hes my cousin, I would fall in love with him. He loves me back after 30 years of not even knowing or seeing eachother we fell in love and neither one of us have ever had these type of feelings for anyone. Its weird I know. But wrong? How can something that feels so right be wrong? Isnt it about being happy? especially since both of us have lived horrible awful lives for 30 years in seperate parts of the country and now we find eachother and first thing, said "i love you" within a week we were together in the same state. and now we are making a life together, but we don t like having to hide and lie to people. Any suggestions?
2006-10-25 16:32:32 · 20 answers · asked by dap 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No one needs to know. Bang his brains out.
2006-10-25 16:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
How can u expect anyone to ease ur mind when u know it is morally wrong to live with ur first cousin as man and wife. Biblical times of populating the Earth have come and gone. It is only natural that u and him have the same feelings for each other, u r from the same blood. U r trying to justify the sin u r committing not to mention that if u r of child bearing age u may have physically handicapped children that I and the public might end up taking care of because neither of u would be able to withstand the outrageous medical bills to care for that child or children. First cousins r like brother and sister and should not be together sexually for obvious complications. What if it was a half brother u haven't grown up with or seen for thirty yrs. except pictures and u see each other for the first time without realizing u r related then u find out would u still have sex with ur half brother? This is exactly what u r doing having sex with ur brother. It's disgusting and immoral. Stop it and pray for forgiveness, you need it.
2006-10-25 23:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's like this. You have to consider how closely you two are related. If you are 2nd cousins or closer, you need to stop. If it's more distant, you should be okay. Here's why.
First off, you have the legal issue. No Justice of the Peace will marry you if you are too closely related.
Second, religious issue. No Church will marry you.
The main reason we have these rules is because of health issues. Perhaps nothing will happen directly to the two of you. But, when blood lines cross too closely, the children can have birth defects. Not only physically, but mentally. That's what tends to happen when genetics are too similar. Chances are very high that you would have deformed children.
Is that fair? No. You're children shouldn't have to suffer the consequences of your actions. At the same time, it's not fair that something that feel so right can actually be so wrong. Unfortunately, you have to look at the other people this relationship will affect.
2006-10-25 23:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Emerilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not advise It. Are you first cousins?? Never a good Idea to get involved with a family member evan a cousin.I'm not sure but I alwayes heard that this can cause problems with child bearing such as possible deformities, because of the closeness of the blood line. There is a line that you should not cross.
There are too many eligible men out here that are not related to you.
2006-10-25 23:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by blackbolt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many states have laws against it. If a family has a history of mental illness, for example, the odds of children inheriting it are even greater if their parents are close relatives. And it isn't just a matter of inheriting traits already in existence within the family tree; mutations also take place resulting in physical disfigurements of all sorts. Taint a good thing, hon.
2006-10-25 23:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society and the law says it's wrong. Is this is a 1st, 2nd, or 3rd cousin? In some states it is legal to marry a 3rd cousin. You need to be careful about having kids though, seriously! You need to do some research on that.
2006-10-25 23:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl we all had feeling about our cousin but never do it unless when you were little and usto hump and it feels so good because its sneaky and you know it and you know you anit supposed to be doing it the adrenaline is what gets you turned on but girl it anit going to work just think you will lose your familys self respect and they will think your crazy and think how you childern will look like? most childern with parent of the same blood they child will be disabled or retarded. bcause its the same blood line
2006-10-25 23:41:18 · answer #7 · answered by s_reneeus 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter whether you knew him except for pictures... he is FAMILY... blood kin. Absolutely it is wrong. My niece was involved with her cousin and ended up committing suicide. I'm sure in my heart of hearts she knew it was wrong. The flesh is weak......do yourself a favor and keep him in the family as your cousin and nothing more than a friend.
2006-10-25 23:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by sharryberry2005 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its worng bc ur babies are going to be special. no its just wrong bc its nasty. a cousin, is a cousin, is a cousin. i dont care how u put it. ya'll share blood, share branches of the same tree. its bad
2006-10-25 23:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your cousin then its okay and you shouldn't have to hide your true feelings. I may be young but I do know true love...But i must warn you that if you guys decide to have babies that their is a great chance of them being mentally retarted or disformed!!!
2006-10-25 23:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by JC 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how closely you are related. 1st cousins? wrong, 2nd, not that great, 3rd, ok, 4th hardly even related.
It's your life - do what you think is right.
2006-10-25 23:38:05 · answer #11 · answered by Amber 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋