My husband and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. Together for 2 married for 6 months. We got married in May of this year and before we got married maybe 1month he started drinking once in a while sort of a congradulations from friends and family. Since then he has started to drink on a nightly basis and claims it is all in good fun. I dont know what to do I have talked to him and it does not seem to get through until I get ready to leave? Help anybody what should I do?
2006-10-25 16:28:08 · 15 answers · asked by FullofQuestions 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Frind some AA meetings for him and some for family and friends of alcoholics.. give him a choice booze or marriage..
2006-10-25 16:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always say family first, Make sure that you tell him that your life together should mean more than drinking everyday. Tell him that you want to have a life together minus the drinking. I think that if you really mean that much to him he will stop drinking, if not then i guess that you are married to the wrong guy, and that is to bad cause there must have been something there to have you want to get married in the first place good luck
2006-10-25 17:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by mystic red knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to write him a note. In writing you can say what you feel better than you can in person...then maybe leave for a day or 2 and see how it goes over. Its a great relationship or you wouldnt have gone for marriage. Dont do something this early in the marriage...most divorced people wish they had the spouse still around. He will come around somehow or you will decide a fate im sure....give him a chance in a somewhat harsh way like that. Best of luck...hang in there.
2006-10-25 16:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know this is a tough one cause as they say once a boozer will always boozing. All AA ever did for me was got me to admit that I was a drunk. I got scared quick when my girlfriend said I am leaving your drunk A ss if you don't cut the crap of getting drunk everynight. Tell him to act like a man and cut the drinking its ok for everyonce in awhile but not everynight thing. Hope things get better for you!
2006-10-25 16:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by John H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make it very clear that when he drinks, he is being disrespectful of you and your relationship. Therefore, tell him very clearly that whenever he comes home drunk, you feel disrespected and won't have sex with him and than if he looks elsewhere then you'll kick him out. This will either fix the problem, or you will have to kick hime out. Both are better than him becoming more and more alcoholic and eventually hurting either you or your children.
2006-10-25 17:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by eco101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, being an alcoholic and living with one and having two grown kids who are alclholics. just my experience, you know only; dah. the more you *****, the worse it will be. bitching is not a cure for alcoholics. leaving him is not a cure. he only cares about his feelings, not yours. hes a good guy with a bad problem. not our fault, and probably not his. he just happened to inherit the worst gene in the world "addiction".
my kids are clean, as far as i know, and i know my hubby's clean for 20 years. me.......don't ask, i'm still struggling. ) but i'm giving you the right answers. you are headed for an awful life, if you don't get some help pretty soon. and don't have kids 'til he's sober. and you stay clean too. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-25 16:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by zenasrager 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe its principal to appear at what retailer the receipt is from as good as what used to be bought. It would provide you clues as as to if he used to be skipping paintings to do some thing he shouldnt had been doing. If its some thing ordinary, like groceries, might be the time used to be flawed. Try and believe again to whilst he bought the object at the receipt. Perhaps its from a deliver retailer and he needed to choose some thing up for his workplace? If that doesnt aid, I could name, or pass to the shop, and ask the cashiers if the time is traditionally proper and that i could enquire approximately the object that used to be bought at the receipt. Once once more, if its some thing minute, I wouldnt fear approximately. But certainly if its some thing that he shouldnt had been purchasing then you definitely must obviously convey it up.
2016-09-01 02:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do things that don't have drinking involved. If he is still drinking every night he needs help now. It will only get worse. I am divorced , that was our problem BOOZE! Get him the help if you want it to work out. GOod luck.....
2006-10-25 16:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by luvmycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of all the booze in the house...good luck
2006-10-25 16:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he gets drunk every night then welll call a doctor or get a phisyciatrist. get him to stop. but if its just a little a day nothings bad it just calms your nerves and helps you think better.
2006-10-25 16:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by NadineFROmR.O.S.E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋