I have been with my boyfriend for the past 5 years. I'm at a point where I no longer am in love with him as I feel he has no real goals set in life. About 2 months ago I met a young man, he's 22 years old, 4 years younger than myself and he has shown a lot of interest in me. I don't know what it is but I'm feelin this boy, there's just something about him I like. I ended up meeting with him and sleeping with him just 2 weeks ago and it was one of the best encounters I have ever had. I didn't even feel guilty in the end. He was able to please me better than my spouse and everyday he calls to check up on me. I sit here just thinking about how he did me and how i want to do him again. What do I do as I can't stand my man anymore, I no longer want him. The guy i'm messing around with is not someone I can see myself committing to but something about him is right. But I'm confused now.
2006-10-25 16:25:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You may not realize it but you called your boyfriend of 5 years your "spouse". Evidently you are not married, but you feel tied down to him like you are. You are not confused- you already KNOW you don't love this guy because if you did, you would feel guilty and you would not have slept with this other guy. The issue is not the 22 year old- the issue is the fact that you REALIZE you do not want to be in this 5 year relationship anymore and dont waste another day-and by the way- dont waste another night with the new guy either- you already know he's not the right one either- he was just your "get out of jail guy". Move out and move on.
2006-10-25 16:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by mac 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like two seperate issues are complicating things.
Issue one is - you say that you want to break up with your old boyfriend or is he your spouse after 5 years. I'd make real sure that I wasn't letting a temporary lust cause me to color the present relationship worse than it was before this new guy showed up. If you're certain that you're not in love anymore as you claim, then what else can you do but break off that relationship and wait for the turmoil from that to calm down. Then you can evaluate your other issue with the new man with less confusion.
2006-10-26 00:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by Wascal Wabbit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
O.K. We all like "BAD BOYS". How is your relationship with your spouse? Does he make you feel special? Or are you just fantasizing? Why can't you see yourself with the other guy? There is something wrong there. You can't go on playing the both of them though.
2006-10-25 23:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if its meant to be it will but you cant help who you fall for things just happen go with your heart its on you we can only give you advice some of it maybe or not true but when it comes down to it you know where you heart last so good luck
2006-10-25 23:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by s_reneeus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what my friend told me when i broke up with my boyfriend.
she told me when i kiss a guy and not feel quilty thats when i know thats it truly over between me and him and i have gotten over him.
if you are unhappy and not in love, dont stay in that relationship.
it seems like you found someone who you can be happy with and have fun with
BUT
make sure this is what you want before you break it off with your guy. think long and hard because if you are not sure it might be a huge mistake
2006-10-25 23:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as I see it you have answered your own question.
or you could try to work it out with your spouse.
but it sounds like you want to be a free spirit.
you must be true to your heart......talk to your spouse he may feel the same way you are.
but he deserves to know how you feel and why you feel the way to your happiness is freedom.
2006-10-25 23:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Marg N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your man of 5years. Keep the 2nd guy for back up if your man cant take it your truth
2006-10-25 23:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by Rooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your boyfriend/spouse because you're not being fair to him. Let him get on with his life.
2006-10-25 23:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your confused because you didn't make peace with your first relationship. and end it before starting something else.. Shame on you!!
2006-10-25 23:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋