What would you do?

Question

What would you do if you were stressed, depressed, and fustrated about multiple problems in your life?

I'm having problems with friends, stressed out with school, and depressed because my uncle just died.

About to go crazy here.... please help.

Answer 1

I heard a little story the other day.
"okay the story is about a little wave bobbing along in the ocean,haveing a grand old time. He is enjoying the wind and the fresh air until he notices the other waves infront of him,crashing against the shore.

"My god,this is terrible,the wave says. Look whats going to happen to me!!"

"Then along comes another wave. It sees the first wave, looking grim, and it says to him, Why do you look so sad?"

"The first wave says, You dont understan! We're all going to crash! All of us waves are going to be nothing! Isn't it terrible?'

"The second wave says, 'No, you don't understand. You're not a wave, you're part of the ocean.


Detaching yourself? You know what the Buddhist say? Don't cling to things, because everything is impermanent.
Detachment doesn't mean you don't let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That's how you are able to leave it.

Take any emotion--love for woman, or grief for a loved one, or what you are going through,fear, guilt and pain or deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions---- if you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid. you're afraid of pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.

But by throwing your self into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, 'All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now i need to detach from that emotion for a moment'

Wash yourself with the emotion. It won't hurt you. It will only help. If you let the fear inside, if you pull it on like a familiar shirt, then you can say to yourself, "All right, it's just fear, I don't have to let it control me. I see it for what it is . (Learn to detach).

Answer 2

I have recently taken a sabatical from my friends. I have only emailed a few of them and not talked to any of them on the phone or in person in almost a week. I explained to them that I love them but I needed space. They are my friends so they understand. It really has helped because prior to this we were having some issues. Now, they just miss being able to have me around and truely I am enjoying the peace and quiet. School is school....do your assignments ahead of time, make sure you pay attention in class and take good notes and get plenty of rest before a test. You know you can do this and it is almost time for a small holiday. Hold on....you can make it. You have a right to be depressed because you lost a loved one. Allow yourself to be depressed but don't allow yourself to get so bogged down in it that you stop really living. That is a sad testimony to someone you apparently cared for. Make him proud.
Hope you get through it all and know that everything changes everyday. Tommarrow may be worse or it may be the best day of your life. You never know.

Answer 3

if you have tried to get over it for about a month now but it's just getting worse no matter what natural thing u do to try to help yourself get better.
You need to see psychologist so she/he Can get you on some SSRI pills, the pills are very safe and will help you get better, your brain is laking serotonin and that is why you are thinking so negative all the time.you need to be strong to get through this nightmare that you are going through.(i just went through it myself 2 months ago.I never liked taking pills in my life , but when i found out that i had a chemical imbalance (depression and anxiety)i could not make myself suffer any longer.I had to get help and get on pills.Now i feel almost normal again.)
There is a light at the end of the tunnel, be strong, DON"T WORRY U ARE NOT GOING CRAZY, after u take the pills your chemical imbalance will go away, it takes time and u have to be strong.
I felt like i was going crazy too, but u have to know that it's all in your head,( it's not real)you are curupting ur own mind and then your body starts to believe it too, that why u get pains here and there or other feelings like guilt or something.
u will get better, just find ur self a good Doctor that really cares. If u are a women try women centers(clinics)
IF i got through this i know you can, because i know that u are strong i know that because u where smart enough to reach out and ask someone. JUST DON"T BELIEVE EVERYTHING THAT U READ, RIGHT NOW UR MIND IS REALLY WEAK AND BORNARABLE.
take care , be strong, and if u feel like killing your self or hurting someone don't do it. go to the emergency room for help, don't worry that isjust another part of depression.
GET HELP ASAP. PILLS DO HELP, DON"T BE SCARED TO TAKE THEM TO GET YOUR SELF ALL FIXED UP.

Answer 4

Honey I am sorry about your uncle. I would say a prayer and ask God for help in getting through your problems. He is there for the asking. He will help you through all you are going through. also they say laughter is the best medicine. Try going to a good comedy and enjoy your self as best you can. Read a good book and don't worry about the things that are bothering you. A good hot bubble bath will help relax you also. Get plenty of rest if you can May God be with you always. Hugs.

Answer 5

Hold on and keep in mind, good or bad this too shall pass. I've been going through a lot in my life over the past few yrs. and though sometimes it may not seem like you're going to make it through it, some how you do. Remember death is serious, life's the joke. Seriously, no matter how tough it gets there's always another option and when all else fails, try prayer. Good luck.

Answer 6

If you can't talk to a trusted friend or family member then talk to your doctor or a counselor at school. If you can't do that call the mental health line in your area. If you can't do that try writing down everything you feel into a journal. Sometimes writing about your feelings helps to sort them out as well as just getting them out of your system. hang in there...things always get better...ya just gotta hold on until the sun comes out again.

Answer 7

Talking or hanging with friends usually makes me feel better. But I guess you're having problems with them too. There's not much I do myself when I have multiple problems. Sometimes I like to whip up my favorite comfort foods and relax by myself to some music or a nice movie. Hope this helps. =]

Answer 8

spend some time alone if you can. go take a nap in the sun, lite some candles in your bathroom, put on one of those meditation tapes or those tapes of soothing sounds, take a hot bubble bath and focus on nothing. go to a movie by yourself, preferably a comedy. get a journal and write all you thoughts down, do some deep breathing excersises, take a walk. just take some time for yourself and do whatever makes you happy. once you are relaxed enough, the stressors wont be so hard to deal with.

Answer 9

wow....that sounds quite heavy...Im sorry about you losing your uncle. I lost my mom 4 month ago.

One thing I keep in mind is that I know my mom wants me to be happy. I know she doesnt want me to be bummed for the rest of my life. I think your uncle would want that too.

Next talk to your teacher or counselor about this. No doubt they will help you.

Lastly, it might be time to get new friends. Real friends are there for you especially at a time like this. I wish you well.

Answer 10

you are not the only one -- work through the problems dont worry about school -- in 10 years you will look back and think "why was i soo stressed it was nothing" and feeling depressed is natural you must work through it

act positive and soon you will feel positive and you will get past all of this -- there are people that love and care for you talk to them about some of your worries