My Wife told me recently that she had cheated on me, I wanted to get revenge but the more she told me about the guy the more I wanted his wife to know ( for her family's saftey) she told me he was with multiple women and that he is doing drugs. He has 2 kids very young. Should I tell her whats going on?
2006-10-25 16:23:07 · 22 answers · asked by JOJO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would just because of the safety issues for the kids. Drugs and parenthood do not mix.
2006-10-25 16:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your wife is a cheater she probably is a liar too, maybe you should be careful before you go off accusing the guy she says she was cheating with, maybe its someone totally different, and by the way chances are you need protecting too as she may have done this more than once.
You see, you are taking everything she is telling you as gospel truth and she is a cheater by her own admission so how can you trust a cheater, she may be trying to throw you off track because this guy gave her the cold shoulder or something now she wants revenge. Just a different scenario for you to mull over.
Chances are if the man has had that many women his wife knows already, your wife doesn't deserve you unless you have commited the same sin, but it is for you to see this, peace be with you.
2006-10-25 23:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not that it really matters but is this a same sex relationship? Because your avatar is female but you are talking about having a wife.
To get to your ? - if you are going to tell his wife only do it out of concern, not for revenge. And go to counseling to get to the root of the problems between you and your 'wife'. Infidelity is a tough one to try to work through.
2006-10-25 23:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by greyrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, because telling her really completes the revenge, doesn't it? You've found an excuse to go to her under the pretense of being concerned for her safety. You don't even know her, and I can't believe your have any real concern for her well-being.
Plus, you don't think she already knows? She does.
Leave them alone and focus on what happened in your marriage where your wife felt compelled to have an affair. That's the responsibility you have.
2006-10-25 23:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, do what you makes you happy. Just be honest with yourself about it. We all know you really aren't concerned with his family, but more your revenge.
Revenge can be sweet, but are you prepaired for the fall out? Have you thought about why she cheated?
The question is what are you going to to with your life now? It's all out in the open and now what?
Do what you've got to do, but don't get arrested for it or cause a situation where the police need to be involved.
2006-10-25 23:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell for the sake of the other woman, I would want to know about that. What did you do with you're wife. I hope you left her or atleast seperated for awhile to let her know what she did was wrong.
2006-10-25 23:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by NoName 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell who? What your wife? She already knows. The answer is no.
2006-10-25 23:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by sweetirsh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HIV. Need I say more. Get yourself tested? Then decide if she wants to party in the future are you willing to get what she picks up. Someone in this relationship needs to grow a pair. Just being honest!
2006-10-25 23:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by freesample1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your wife got dumped by her lover and is using you to seek revenge... She doesn't have the nerve to tell his wife herself so instead she is triggering you...
2006-10-25 23:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's nasty man with different women and your wife get to a doctor quick. how would you approach the wife with the news
2006-10-25 23:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by JUST US 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋