My husband is deployed over seas. I send him nude pics of me and while he was home we taped us having sex so he can take it with him. Yet he still has nude pics of other girls. I'm not a bad looking girl. I'm tiny. 5'1" 110 lbs...we have Amazing sex...whats the need? I'm not upset about it...I've had fantasies where he is banging other girls...he knows my fantasies...what is it about guys? Is it the variety? I thought I did a pretty good job sending him the photos...I suppose it just hurts a bit...Not angry. Won't ever try to stop him from looking...I just want to know the reason.
2006-10-25 16:20:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to answer a question asked...I take the photos...great thing about digital cameras with timing!
2006-10-25 17:13:56 · update #1
I would have to see the photos Armywife in order to be able to answer this. You sound really cool - a perfect wife. Guys are just weird and get turned on visually. They like to see variety and it has nothing to do with you. I am sure he is totally happy with you (he wud be nuts not to be) - just being a normal guy, so don't give it a second thought. Sounds like you both have a very healthy relationship. Best of luck to you and thank your husband for us for serving our country!
2006-10-25 16:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by ur_ave_joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always look at other women,and the ones who say no are lying. Yes its the variety if you take 50 women and 49 are nude we will end up staring at the one who is dressed and wondering what she looks like naked.Don't sweat the small stuff as long as he eats at home he can get his appetite elsewhere.
2006-10-25 16:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by worklessenjoylife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, as a man I can say honestly, men are dogs.
they want a harem. even if it's only to look at. trouble with the pix of other girls. he can't have them. Plus prob. lots of em are air brushed anyway. if you married him, you have to be faithful and so does he. checking out nude girls when they ain't you is not keeping his promise, to forsake all others. sound corny?
so I'm corny. I'd say most guys would kill to have a wife who does what you do to encourage him. Problem with tapes. prob.
other guys are gonna see em so you're showing off for people you never intended to see. YOu might want to rethink that one.
I'll pray 'God keeps him safe and sends him home to you.
best,
frankie c.
2006-10-25 16:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man looks at other women and fantasizes. Fantasy isn't real. This fantasy exists in the male mind and he uses it to bring himself to orgasm. Then the fantasy leaves.
Men have no romantic feeling for the fantasy, only a fleeting lust. They will use any available woman's image to bring themself to orgasm.
If he loves you, thats real love. There should be no betrayal for him having fantasy. Regardless of the photo in front of him, there would still be an image in his mind.
Ideally if we were a perfect species we would have only one image in our minds, but we are not. And we are susceptible to other images.
But we don't act on these images and meet those fantasies for recreational sexual purposes, unless we are dogs.
2006-10-25 16:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is so simple.
Variety is the spice of life. At least in a life where you allow the possibility of variety to exist. You, my young lady, have created this environment of permissiveness. Now you must live with it.
TX Guy
2006-10-25 16:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a relationship all ways fails when a spouse joins the service.He probably is lusting over other women because you and him are hardly together.I'vee talked to some veterans and I'v heard from them that's the wrong time to be In a relationship when one spouse is over seas.Most of them divorce because of lack of company.simply because one can't wait for one another.But I have to say hes really risking on loosing some one spacial (you).I wish I had some one devoted to me as you are to him. Good luck hope It works out with you and him.
2006-10-25 16:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by Casper77mc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word: testosterone. It goes down to the cave man level, it's a basic instinct. If you women weren't attractive to us, procreation would cease, or at least drop way off! Any guy who says he doesn't notice other women is either dead or lying. The difference here is whether or not he does it in front of you. If you've been that good to him, he at least owes you the common courtesy of not ogling other women or pictures in front of you. God bless ya, you sound like a great wife.
2006-10-25 16:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not u keep some nude photo of guys ,see what is his reaction?and do u mind sending some of your pics to me???
2006-10-25 16:27:21 · answer #8 · answered by eZY jOHn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that men are very visual in our sexuality. We love to see beautiful women. It turns us on....well the straight ones that is. Sending the pics was great of you. You are a good woman in my mind.
2006-10-25 17:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for him to have the other pictures. Moderation moderation. I imagine the whole platoon is sharing their girly mags and pin-ups. Its a guy thing. I always liked my wife's saucy pictures. Keep up the good work!
2006-10-25 16:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋