Husband fixes car that wasn’t working so that W. who’s ill/can’t work can take his adult sons (from prior marriage) to/from school & work each day (they could ride the bus but Husband says no) . One wk into the nonstop chauffeuring, W. forgets to pic 22 yr old up at school… H. calls W. enraged that she’s an hour late. He calls her back 15 minutes later, she hasn’t left, assures him that she’s leaving now. He hangs up on her screaming “Forget it!! I’ll pick him up!!” He leaves his (self-employed) job, sees her arrive at exactly the same time but gives her the silent treatment & tells his son ride w/him. On way home W. has flat tire. She doesn’t call H. Puts air in, 2xs still goes flat. Later H ticked re flat/damaged rim. He calls her “stupid”, says she “meant to damage” his car...W cries. Then says, "This was yr bad Karma so, God said, 'Since you are being an azz about 1 simple mistake. KEEP GOING to get your son b/c I'll take her vehicle' so ha-ha!" H says "*** you" & hangs up on her
2006-10-25 16:12:49 · 17 answers · asked by blackpurringkat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, "Person with a fake picture," I read your "question" three times because it IS confusing; however, best I can make of it, I believe:
1. That you probably resent your husband's children from a previous marriage; which is somewhat common with children who were teens when the marriage occurred.
2. That you do not like/respect, nor do you want to like/respect the children's mother which is also somewhat common.
3. That the children (who are either adult or almost adult) were not raised to be self-sufficient, and depend on Daddy and Mommie too much.
4. That you resent the time and money he spends on them.
5. That all involved are using "Seven Deadly Habits" which are:
Criticizing
Blaming
Complaining
Nagging
Threatening
Punishing
Bribing or rewarding to control
Instead of the "Seven Caring Habits" which are:
Supporting
Encouraging
Listening
Accepting
Trusting
Respecting
Negotiating differences
6. All may benefit from counseling...including the "children."
2006-10-26 12:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few sugguestion. Most ppl don't want to hear the spanking but I would try that first. Try taking his games away for More then a Day. Ground him for a week works well. My kids hated that. LoL As far as school is concern, find out from the teacher if he is finishing his work ahead of the class. Children who are bored in school act out because of it. Everyone becomes Stupid. So he might need a challenge there or more work at a higher level to keep him occupied. If school is not the problem this may be something as simple as needing someone else besides mom. At his age, boy scouts or little leauge any gender activiity my be in order. Any group where he will have friends and can be a big boy. He's a big boy and sometimes they just need to feel like one. Watch, encourage, and love is all a good parent can really do.
2016-05-22 14:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is his adult sons not capable of driving? also where is their mother she should be the one respoible for them.. If husband is putting others needs and wants before his wife's then she needs to reconsider the marriage...
2006-10-25 16:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you probally have a lot of problems in your relationship because no one gets that upset because either you forgot to pick someone up or your were late. maybe you are doing something else that makes him mad , maybe he is tired of being with you because he talks to you like you are a bum on the street
2006-10-25 17:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like the sons are number one and it should be u instead.
2006-10-25 16:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say about all this is, this relationship sounds very abusive (verbally). They both need professional help.
2006-10-25 16:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they can't solve this simple and small issue without arguing they BOTH need to grow up. They are both wrong.
2006-10-25 16:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by dfalllenangel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yours and his. yours for allowing yourself to putt up with him and his grown *** kids who should not be depending on their step-mom to run them around because they are quite capable of handling their own transportation issues. his for expecting you to baby his grown *** sons. it seems like your husband and your step-kids have the same mental capacity.
2006-10-25 16:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by miss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry...you kind of lost me toward the end...
2006-10-25 16:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a good lawyer.
2006-10-25 16:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by tim b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋