I used to have a bunch of friends who became alcoholics and drug-abusers---&/or had other bad habits of some kind, so I eliminated them from my life...now I haven't got any friends.
Am I too picky? I'm a Christian, and want to live life as I believe is right---isn't there a way to meet people the right way---without going to a church? If you have some ideas, please share them. I'd like to hang out with someone once in awhile, but I have no one to ask. Weekends have become very lonely. Help please?
2006-10-25 16:10:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, I've never been a substance abuser, and I have never smoked at all. These ppl just went that way, and I had to eliminated them from my life.
2006-10-25 16:25:33 · update #1
I wasted YEARS on my drunken father...and I will not waste a minute on any drunken 'so called' friends. I've 'offered them up to God'...and that's that. HE can take care of them...I'm DONE. I need friends who care what He thinks like I do.
2006-10-25 16:31:40 · update #2
I'm a christian but don't go to church that often. That doesn't make me less of a christian.
2006-10-25 16:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by matt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im a christian and im not a church goer regularly because every sunday morning im taking care of my mother while my father and son go to sunday school and church. I would like to go to church on occasion but having a buttmuch for a brother and a sister that only thinks of herself im pretty much stuck with the situation i am in. That's ok though cuz my son is getting to go to church with his pappaw.
Not everyone is a partier that is a church goer, I drink socially (well not now cause im 9 months pregnant) but when i could drink i did. but only from time to time.
It's pretty much just a learning thing, maybe you can meet people at a new job, new town i mean really people that don't party are out there as much as the partiers. they are just harder to find i guess. Good luck !!
2006-10-25 16:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do volunteer work like the Red Cross or at a hospital (but theres still no guarantees). Do the things you like to do like playing tennis or visiting a library or go to a play or whatever. The idea is to get out there.
On a different note, dont completely write off your former friends. If anyone needs to go to church are those folks. Perhaps you can invite one of them next time you go. Keep in mind sometimes the healing process can take a long time.
2006-10-25 16:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 05:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian through and through, and I hardly ever go to church. I have some friends who aren't Christians, though they're not 'bad people'- if you're looking to make friends, try signing up for a class in something. I don't know what to suggest... I don't go out and make new friends like that. It usually just 'happens' :P Good luck!
2006-10-25 16:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by piratewench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JESUS LUV all people r different
good ones and bad ones have vices also
i smoke alot of dope but am a good father husband and i like my own company (mostly) get away from the twits and find good genuine people to associate with....as long as you learn the diff between the good and the bad your ok ...and as lond as they dont influence you in a bad way ,,, go with it
( just what you needed , a 40 yr old fart telling you the answers to what seems to you to be a 2006 problem,,,,,ps its not ,,, its the same old same old xxx good luck,,,(go enjoy life))
2006-10-25 17:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by edlev13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that you once partook of alcohol and drugs and now want to live a straight life and find yourself with no one that lives that way?
Well, it is ok for you to change your life but remember that true christians do not judge others, rather they pray for them that they see the error of their ways. Don't try and convert them for only those whom are chosen to hear will hear the message and comprehend.
Volunteering your help will bring you closer to people who share your thoughts on life if you are a helper. You can also sign up for a bible class, or help with sunday school, somthing that will help you overcome your loneliness and won't tempt you to fall back into your old ways. God Bless, you can ask God in the name of Jesus to show you the way this usually brings results..Peace.
2006-10-25 16:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How does being a christian have anything to do with finding friends? You can find nice people just about anywhere. Go somewhere that has something that you like to do. Say you like bowling, go to the bowling alley and there will be people there that share that interest. (Thats just an example but think of someplace that you like that wouldn't be too awkward to tag onto a group in progress)
2006-10-25 16:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by lbgrowl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hunny its your life and having friends like that is a waste of time, you should just talk to more and more people and just see what they are like. Once you know them and you might think that they are good people then you could talk to them! Good Luck and ps you are not picky!
2006-10-25 16:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can volunteer and if it is important you can volunteer at a Christian agency where you might meet more Christians. It's a great way to meet kindhearted people who care about others.
2006-10-25 16:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by grapeshenry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋