We will have joint physical custody. So if we live in the same school district, what is the best for my two sons? A week with me, a week with her....a month with me, a month with her... seasonal...school year vs. summer..I will be paying minimal child support, as we both work.
2006-10-25 16:09:19 · 4 answers · asked by Tim D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That all depends on the two of you. If your work schedules are set you can have the non-custodial parent have the child each week on their days off. If that is too often then every other week or even less. It really goes on the two of you and the child. Go with your gut, whatever you think would be best for all involved is really what you should go with. Just make sure that when custody papers are drawn up that there is something in there that covers you in case one of you moves farther away, say 100 miles or more. Then every other holiday (thanksgiving and Christmas) on alternating years and one month over the summer is what I use. It seems to work out for the best for our family, but everyone's needs and resources are different.
2006-10-25 16:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by shannon_ida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the kids and your relationship with your ex. As a teacher I have seen all of the above, some kids adjust to changes, others don't. If the two of you are civil to each other and communicate openly, then try to split time fairly and evenly.So that the kids get to share school events together throughout the year. I have a family now where both parents come to functions together,sit with eachother and you wouldn't know they maintain two homes- Dad goes to one kid's teacher and mom to the other kid's teacher for conferences. Unusual, but the kids are very well adjusted.
My own situation-impossible for that. We tried splitting days since I lived close to school, kids came home for a few hours till dinner, dad picked up and slept over his place and he dropped kids at school but too many times homework/lunch etc. forgotten
Also no way to reinforce priviledges.
2006-10-25 18:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have joint custody with me as the primary care giver and even though we live in the smae town he see's the kids every other weekend and 2 weeks in the summer but if you guys get along well enough to share more time the better it will be for the kids but i wouldn't do the week to week thing they wouldn't feel adjusted in either home.. good luck
2006-10-25 16:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is hard start it off weeks with one weekends with the other,,
during vacations let the weekend person have them for one rotate,,, holidays are tough cause both parents want their kids for the holidays,, but what ever you do don;t put the boys in the middle,,
if they are old enough ask them how they would like it,,,
they will give youthe best answer if they can,,,
does your work hours let you do that ,,,
2006-10-25 16:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by thanks to our brave troops, 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋