One of my best friends gave me the title of "godmother" and she has had a recent miscarriage. I don't know what to do other than to be with her.
We plan to have a ceremony soon for the baby but I don't know what type of gifts to buy or what to say or what the heck to do!
2006-10-25 16:09:09 · 11 answers · asked by Catt_85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be THERE help her grieve don't try to rush her into things. help her make difficult decisions ONLY if ask. Let her know you Care. A nice gift for her,A book of poems, A music CD of her kind of music. PRAY FOR HER THAT GOD WILL FILL THIS VOID AND THAT SHE WILL FEEL HIS PRESENCE IN A VERY REAL AND COMFORTING WAY. Many times in my life I would not have made it if I hadn't had friends who cared enough to PRAY.
2006-10-25 16:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her dictate how much she wants done. The best thing you can ever do for someone is to listen to them.
Good luck and I'm sorry to hear about her miscarriage. She's lucky to have a friend who cares about her enough to want to help her through this. You Rock!
2006-10-25 23:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by Gotham*City*Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flowers or a Teddy Bear would be nice. There was an accident here at Wal-mart and her 5 yr. old was killed. They set up a memorial there and set up fund raiser cans to help thru the greieving process.
2006-10-25 23:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mourn with the mother and dont bring it up. dont ask to be the godmother of the next child, but act like it anyway. give all the love you have to the next baby and treat him/her as you own. if the mother asks you to be the next godmother accept with dignity and gracious thanks. buy roses for love, lilies for understnading, and orchids for a future of happiness. good luck!
2006-10-25 23:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by Nikolae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't buy a gift. Just be there for your friend. If you want, you might make a donation to a children's foundation, or something like that in remembrance.
2006-10-25 23:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best thing to do is to just be there for her. Listen to her and just be her friend. Nothing you say or do is going to make it any easier.
2006-10-25 23:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be normal and be there for your friend ask her if there is anything that she needs, just be her friend, somebody she can talk too.
2006-10-25 23:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing you can do is be there for her. you don't have to say anything, just listen and offer kleenex
2006-10-25 23:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by avanging bride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are concerned enough to ask makes you a very good person and friend.
During this time your friend will need you more than ever. Just be there for her even if it just to listen or if she needs to cry or even if she needs you to sit silently with her.
Grief is very stressful. If you are looking to buy a gift, you may want to get something like hand lotion that smells nice or something that she can use to take care of herself. It is harder to care for ourselves during stressful times. Aroma therapy can be stress relieving
Search the following link for grief support.
http://search.yahoo.com/search?search=grief+support&ei=UTF-8&fr=ks-ans&ico-yahoo-search-value=http%3A%2F%2Frds.yahoo.com%2F_ylt%3DAnKqdVoIXpjoOWgDmyRy29gazKIX%2FSIG%3D111gjvvgj%2F*-http%3A%2F%2Fsearch.yahoo.com%2Fsearch&ico-wikipedia-search-value=http%3A%2F%2Frds.yahoo.com%2F_ylt%3DArjE3MSgqg8lQrd1GgFk1ggazKIX%2FSIG%3D11ia1qo58%2F**http%253a%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FSpecial%253aSearch&p=grief+support
Also miscarriage grief.
http://search.yahoo.com/search?search=+miscarriage+grief&ei=UTF-8&fr=ks-ans&ico-yahoo-search-value=http%3A%2F%2Frds.yahoo.com%2F_ylt%3DAnKqdVoIXpjoOWgDmyRy29gazKIX%2FSIG%3D111gjvvgj%2F*-http%3A%2F%2Fsearch.yahoo.com%2Fsearch&ico-wikipedia-search-value=http%3A%2F%2Frds.yahoo.com%2F_ylt%3DArjE3MSgqg8lQrd1GgFk1ggazKIX%2FSIG%3D11ia1qo58%2F**http%253a%2F%2Fen.wikipedia.org%2Fwiki%2FSpecial%253aSearch&p=+miscarriage+grief
Best wishes to you and your friend. I will keep you both in my prayers.
This world needs more people like you.
2006-10-25 23:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be very supportive and there for her.
2006-10-25 23:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋