My fiance told me there is nothing wrong with a married/engaged guy going out for a coffee with a girl if it's business related. Do you think it is right for a married/ enaged man to go out like that? My fiance plans on going back to school. And asked me if I'd get jelouse if he is out with a study partner. I told him if it was a guy he is studying with I would have no problem but if it was a girl I might get jelouse. Then asked me what if a girl sits next to him in class and that she is paired up with him as a study partner? Do you think that is asking for unwated trouble? Last year when were were dating he took pics with 17 year old girls his co-workers and him met at a club in South America while on busines. I was jelouse when he showed me the pics. Because my honey is 37. He said those girls only liked his 20 year old co-worker and he told those girls that they should be in school and nothing happened. But I didn't like him taking pics of teen girls. I am I insecure?
2006-10-25 16:03:17 · 7 answers · asked by Hot C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you freak out easily. He is not hiding anything from you. He is having open honest conversations. If you treat him like he's cheated or yell at him as if he is cheating, he'll resent you. Then his attitude might be "if I'm going to get yelled at about it, I might as well do it". Would you like to be looked at with a suspicious eye all the time?
2006-10-25 20:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you should get jealous and get insecure. I mean if he is telling you that if it's okay to go out for coffee with another girl, tell him no it's not okay. If he tells you if it's okay to go out studying with another girl tell him no because he is asking you all of that just so if he cheats on you his escuse would be, "well I told you so and it didn't matter that much to you. If he is 37 years old and is taking pictures with 17 year old girl and told you nothing happened, that means something did happen. So don't believe anything he says because the majority of the men like to lie like that. So a little spying is not wrong. Ask him the same questions in your situation and see what he thinks. If you find out that he is cheating, don't forgive him, it just leads to him cheating on you again.
2006-10-25 23:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i can understand how you feel. I dont think he would have showed you the pics if u had anything to worry about. I guess there is nothing wrong with a guy hanging out with a girl as long as it stays ONLY on the friends level and they are way away that you two are in a relationship and the guy is totally honest with you. He should respect you tho if u tell him you don't feel comfortable with him goin out with another girl.
2006-10-25 23:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by Just Wondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have trust issues you must conquer, regardless of who your fiancee is or how old, its a matterof trust. Did he ever give you reason not to trust him, was he unfaithful and now you are trying to forget and move on, or are you jealous every time he looks at another woman. It is ok for him to have friends that are girls and it is ok for you as well to have male friends.
If you trust you trust completly, or you don't.
2006-10-25 23:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with you. I wouldn't want my boyfriend studying with another woman. I just think that spending to much time with another woman always leads to trouble.
2006-10-25 23:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its fine get a life. I am sure he is honest if not then don't marry him if you can not trust him.
2006-10-25 23:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by mafiaqueen1900 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to either deal with it, or end it. do you trust him or not? if you don't trust him then hit the road.
2006-10-25 23:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by avanging bride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋