I left him, and we have remained friends. He's rich, but I never fell in love, so I left him. He has been dating the same girl since we split, but has never expressed marraige-type feelings. I'm in a relationship, I love my BF very much, but he's the guy who says he'll "never get married"... so why do I feel like I'm missing out now that my ex is getting married?
2006-10-25 15:45:02 · 10 answers · asked by westcoastbeauty79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well that is hard...You love your boyfriend....You didn't love your ex. But your ex is where you want to be right now with the boyfriend you have so its not necessarily that you are jealous of him just that he is doing what you want to be doing...Its understandable hun....This guy might change his mind and if not you will find the one for you and you will live happily ever after:P
2006-10-25 16:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ally 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think even when you break up by choice, there' always that, what could have been in the back of your mind, and when you hear your ex is moving on, you now know it is instead what could have been to will never be. It hurts a little bit. I know when I found out my ex was getting married and having a baby with his new girlfriend (even though we broke up 2 yrs before and they were together right after we broke up too, and I wasn't sitting around wishing to get back with him. I had moved on too) I cried. I couldn't explain it either at the time. Even my best friend was confused by it until the same thing happened to her. I think it's pretty normal to have those feelings.
It might also be on some level, you don't want o be replaceable, and when you find out you've been replaced and they are happy with someone else, that stings a little bit too. You'll get past it.
2006-10-25 15:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel a sense of loss after a divorce--even if ending the marriage was your idea and your initiative. There is a loss--of your dream of what might have been. Perhaps it is made worse by the fact that the dream can never be. There is another question, that is even more important. WHAT KIND OF A BUM WOULD BE SO DISRESPECTFUL OF THE FEELINGS OF HIS EX-WIFE, AND CALLOUS ABOUT THE DIGNITY OF THE BRIDE, AS TO ACTUALLY INVITE HIS EX-WIFE TO THE WEDDING? GOING TO THE WEDDING OF A CHILD YOU HAD TOGETHER IS DIFFERENT. Man, if the little sister is telling the truth, your ex-husband is a genuine, grade A, made in the USA, LOSER. I only said "made in the USA" because it rhymes, not because I'm disrespectful of the USA or its people.
2016-05-22 14:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because for whatever reason, when we hear that our ex is getting married ...to someone other than us (!) ....it's a stinging validation to our heart and mind of what might have been and what just isn't. It's fleeting, though, dear and I promise it will pass!
Pull out your sexiest outfit, get your favourite shoes on and gather the girls for a night out! The moral support of friends never ceases to fail in these situations. Above all, don't jeopardize what you have with your boyfriend for something that has been long over and buried. Have your cry in the bathroom and steer clear of the church on his big day :)
2006-10-25 15:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Gotham*City*Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's that what could have been feeling. Just think of how in love you are now with your boyfriend. Review in your mind the reasons why that relationship didn't work out. Once you do that you probably won't be feeling the same.
2006-10-25 15:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because in the back of your mind, u wished u haven't given up something that u already had and what could've been. It's also a bit of jealousy thinking that his marriage to someone else may work out where yours had failed.
I'm hoping that it isn't a "misery loves company" scenario.
2006-10-25 16:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel that way because he is your ex, you have feelings for him even though you both have moved on. dont give up on your boyfriend either, there are alot of married guys out there that once claimed that they would never get married. (they make the best husbands too) hope this helps you out.
2006-10-25 15:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. But he was still yours at one point, I think it's a possessive thing. You know he wasn't right for you but, since you aren't getting something that you want/need from your current relationship, you are jealous. And then there is that whole you never know what you've got 'til it's gone thing, too.
2006-10-25 15:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by greyrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you learn your lessons one day at a time
always stick with the one who has a future.
this one will ***** you good couple of times, but theres no future.
butterflys in your stomach, aka love can only go so far
2006-10-25 15:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because you wanted really badly to get married and your boyfriend doesnt want to.
2006-10-25 15:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Harley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋