Your spouse & mother get into an argument ( happend a few times) and they both exchange hurtful words but this time your spouse swears & calls her a f---kin b***ch, etc, etc and Mom won't go anywhere near your spouse who refuses to apologize do you accept this behaviour and continue the relationship?
2006-10-25 15:39:56 · 12 answers · asked by Heated Topics 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a hard question!
I guess it depends on what they were fighting about, who started it, and how they treat each other on a normal basis. Was it something your wife feels strongly about?
I am waiting other answers because I don't get along with my mother in law - so this is one question and I going to keep reviewing.
Your wife may have been keeping a lot of anger in, and just exploded. Maybe your spouse can say something like "i am sorry i called you a nasty word" - that way she doesn't have to say sorry for being mad just for calling her a name.
2006-10-25 15:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going through. My husband and my mother got in an argument after my second son was born. I couldn't seem to get them to get along and still have trouble to this day (5 yrs later). I ended up writing a letter to my mother and just told her how I felt. The truth is that she started it and was extremely determined to be right eventhough she was completely wrong. I don't know what happened in your case but I can tell you that things will never be the same. They will never have any sort of respect for each other and will probably not talk for a while. They need time for the anger to die down. Don't expect them to be close ever. Because of my trouble, I can barely trust my mother. It seems like she is always trying to cause trouble between us and is always trying to get me to leave him. There is no reason to leave him. I would after a while, try to get them to sit down and talk and at least apologize to each other. I hope things get better. I know this is hard. It almost feels like you have to choose between your husband and your mother. I hope things get resolved as much as possible.
Good luck!!
2006-10-25 16:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry....if I don't call my Mother those kinds of names....then I sure as hell ain't gonna stand by and let my spouse do it!!!
I don't care what kind of disagreements they have had in the past....the line is crossed when names get called like that!!
If either of my son-in-laws ever called me names like that, and my daughter didn't either leave his ***, or set him straight about it...then she could just forget that she has a mother! Because blood is thicker than water, and I will be her mother a helluva lot longer than he will be her spouse...just as I was her mother a long time before he ever became her spouse!!
Kick his *** to the curb!!!!!
2006-10-25 17:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your spouse has to learn to respect your mother as well as your mother respecting your spouse because when they disrespect each other they are disrespecting you as well. No one should accept this type behaviour because its not healthy for either relationship... if this continue the relationship should end
2006-10-25 15:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by lileya16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slowly talk to spouse to apologize. It does not mean we r wrong , instead selfish . We human r not always right , sometimes there is a time we'll make mistake . Maybe the argument time is that time . Ideas always right, just not the right times
2006-10-25 16:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you are in a relationship you have to respect your spouses parents. NO EXCEPTIONS! My mother in law used to call me my husband's ex's name on purpose. She even told me after i had our daughter and was still in the hospital that if I had died during the labor she could have taken her son and grand daughter home with her. I never disrespected her, but Idemanded that my husband deal with her. Don't let anyone disrespect your mom. With ou her he wouldn't even have you...
2006-10-25 15:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by PRL8268 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is not right to ask your mom to apologize to your wife. your wife should be the one to do it especially after calling her those names. if they argue often, that is not a good thing. maybe the best thing to do is to move out of the house and let your mom have her peace of mind. obviously, she doesn't like your wife and vice versa. so keeping them together under one roof is like having a volcano ready to erupt anytime. eventually they will forgive each other. but for now keep them away from each other before something worse happens
2006-10-25 16:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he shouldn't have disrepected her in that way. But what was the fight about in the first place? Who initiated it? Need to know more before blame gets laid anywhere, but both should probably apologize to each other.
2006-10-25 15:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on why they are fighting if this isnt the first time you might have yourself one of them mama's that no woman is ever gonna be good enough for her baby boy so even though your wife used some choice words be glad she stands her ground do not expect her to say sorry untill they both are ready to forgive and forget
2006-10-25 16:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
regardless of the cause, its ungentlemanly behaviour and speaks to his regard for women in general .... your mother is within her rights to not want to expose herself to this abuse. As for your husband, he should at least apologize for his hurtful words and his poor manners.
2006-10-25 15:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋