married 24 yrs hubby cheated and has moved on and in with his 21 yr old gf she is 21 he is 42 just walked away so easy like the 24 yrs never happened......doesnt talk to me at all........how can someone be that cold and uncaring after all that time together/
2006-10-25 15:34:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because he is a man honey and they are pigs. for some reason they think way different than we do we weigh out the consequences and they just go with what feels good at the moment. I know it hurts but you need to dust yourself off and have some fun you are still young don't sweat it go out and have fun before you regret it.
2006-10-25 15:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by SanDee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bella.
Right now he is a dog in heat and the 21 yr old is Young and pretty and he can't see the forest from the tree and the 21yr old is probably pretty stupid. she will probaly dump him in time as to her it is fun and sexy now just wait when she realizes some hot young guy wants her. your husband will be history. and guess where he"ll run back to?
Trust me its not over just sit back and watch him screw up his life because he couldn't refuse temptation.
chances are the relationship will not last once the excitement wears off and reality sets in.
Don't be surprised when he does a turn around and sees the light and wants you back or want to be friend a gain.
just you as a person always take the high road . additionally don't wait for him your pretty I'm sure your sexy and this is a great time to get what you want out of like. Think positive and positive things will come.
But your relationship is not over until its over.
keep your head up
I was this guys and learned the hard way
2006-10-25 23:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will be coming back, believe me.
I am 58 and I would never even think about someone below the age of 35. The only way that she will hang on is if he has the money honey.
I have seen few of my retired guys leave their wife and go for a younger lady, then come crawling back after 2 or 3 years.
Being an x-bartender and manager you see it all.
2006-10-25 23:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you look back over the time leading up to his leaving I'm sure you would have noticed some signs leading towards this. I am not saying you were doing anything wrong, relationships are jobs and take constant attention and maintenance. I would suggest you find a local counselor in your area for advice preferably christian. This I'm sure is a difficult time in your life but with God and good people around you anything is possible. Take it from me, I am a recovering addict fom heroin and other things. I want to tell you to look for hope in Jesus there is a greater hope than just what is happening at the moment.
A caring friend.
2006-10-25 22:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by kleb317 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. You must be so sad, confused, angry and all the other nasty emotions.
I think you know him better than any off us here in cyberspace. Maybe it's too painful to look back at all the signs or intuitions you felt, but I'm sure if you were able to think about it then you would see that the dynamics of your marriage had continued to change up to when he left.
I can only speculate from a mans point of view. Maybe he felt his life had hit a dead end and felt worthless. Maybe he needed to be with a young woman to feel young himself. Perhaps he needed a young woman to recharge his sex life. Let's be real, he is twice her age, so what could she possible provide to him other than sex. Of course maybe sex is all he wants right now. Anything could be going threw him that made him decide to leave.
I've learned alot in my almost 40 years of life, but I'm sorry, I just don't know what to say to you. I haven't been there yet and really have no experience to pass on to you. I would recommend seeing a therapist. They can't take the pain away, or give you a formula to find the answers. All they can do is help you cope with this situation. Talk with friends and try to keep busy. You know that this is going to take some time before your ok with it.
Be strong and seek some help to cope with this.
2006-10-25 22:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a similar situation I was talking with someone else with. Sometimes people don't realize what they have and seek after what they think they want. There are some men who need to feel like they've still got it. The conversation I had with the hubby who cheated was, he got bored. He found someone who excited him, but in the end really ruined his life and now he has nobody. 1st wife is remarried and he is alone. My point is you never know from situation to situation. I hope you find peace.
2006-10-25 22:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by lyrical 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat. Wife of 15 years can't recall one good memory we had together because she met a doctor. Plain old selfishness and greed. The hell with the 2 kids or even trying to work on the marriage. A doctor only comes along every so often ya know?
2006-10-25 22:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have absolutely no heart. I know how you feel. When he walked out, you felt like you could just feel your whole life caving in on you. Many people, not just guys, just don't get it. Most likely he doesn't understand it either, even if he isn't hurt by it. Try to spend time with your old friends, and think about him as little as possible. Smile and laugh as often as you can, and meet lots of new people. Get a pen pal, join a club or sport for adults. Don't shut everything out, or shut yourself in. I recommend going to the mountains when it's snowing. It'll clear anyone's head.
Amelia
2006-10-25 23:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by stratocaster lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me when I tell you what goes around comes around. He has a trophy on his arm, a toy. I guarantee that she will eventually loose interest and move on. I just recently went Thur the same thing and thought i would never get Thur it. I did and am so grateful for now I know just what an *** he really is. Your Heart will heal. As for him not talking to you--its his guilt- he knows what he has done. So dear lick your wounds head up back straight and move forward. Chances are he will come snooping around once you start hitting the social scene. He is going to get tired of raising another kid. You are a Woman--strong and determined- have faith in yourself, its only going to get better for you.
2006-10-25 22:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom is this you?? Just kidden... seriously though my dad skipped out on my mom one day and just left... And it was with a 21 year old who he got pregnant... My mom was torn for years... But she found another love and married him (my stepdad). Good things will come your way... In the end my dad married the 21 year old and was with her for like 10 years... then she left him! hahahaha. He called my mom crying and apologizing... Pfffft. He seems to be only caring about himself obviously and not how you feel... If he can be that cold im sure its a good thing its over... Who wants to be with someone who is going to drop yu like that after so long? What comes around goes around.
2006-10-25 22:43:48 · answer #10 · answered by coffeejitterzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋