I have a close friend that is 27, and Im 18. We do lots of things together like shopping, going fun places, and most of the time just hanging out watching t.v. or movies b/c we enjoy hanging out. I look up to her like a big sister and i think she is a really awesome person! I call her quite often b/c I like to catch up on stuff and see how she is doing. She is always nice to me and has never said or done anything to make me think she is annoyed by me, but I am wondering if I am overdoing it? She doesn't seem to mind me calling, but I feel like if i dont call her then she will think I dont care to see what's up but then If I do call her i worry that she might be annoyed!! I dont know why i feel like this. its confusing. could u help?
2006-10-25 15:34:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
why are you worrying about this? i am sure she enjoys you as much as you enjoy her or she wouldnt be spending time with you, chill out and enjoy it!
2006-10-25 15:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by inquiringmind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her. Maybe even show here the question and ask her, "What do you think?"
Write:
"Dear Diary,
Am I overdoing it.........?????
I have a close friend that is 27, and I'm 18. We do lots of things together like shopping, going fun places, and most of the time just hanging out watching t.v. or movies b/c we enjoy hanging out. I look up to her like a big sister and i think she is a really awesome person! I call her quite often b/c I like to catch up on stuff and see how she is doing. She is always nice to me and has never said or done anything to make me think she is annoyed by me, but I am wondering if I am overdoing it? She doesn't seem to mind me calling, but I feel like if i don't call her then she will think I don't care to see what's up but then If I do call her i worry that she might be annoyed!! I don't know why i feel like this. its confusing. could u help?"
Print it and show it to her and see what she says.
2006-10-25 15:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Friend_88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overdoing it? Hmm.
Since she's never given you reason to think she's tired of your attention, why assume she is? You're trying to read her mind, decide what she thinks/feels, and figure out what to do, based on... stuff in your own head.
How about this -- you relax a bit. Figure you like her, enjoy her company, this is good. Get in touch when you feel like it, ask her if it's a convenient time, be ready to say "Okay - I'll talk to you later" if she says it isn't, believe her if she says it's okay.
Understand that there's probably a lot of other stuff going on in her life, too, so not every time is convenient, no matter how much you like the other person - so if she's busy, no big. Let her trust you to take it okay if she is busy - it's not a personal rejection (she might have a lot of reasons for not being free, most of which have nothing to do with you).
Remember that she's perfectly capable of telling you if she is busy, so if she doesn't, then she's free - you don't try to read her mind, you trust her to be straight with you, as you will be with her.
And... you get out a bit, make an effort to meet some other people you like, so when the two of you are together, you know it's because that's where you both want to be (and you'll have even more to talk about). She's your friend, you trust her, you let her know she can trust you, and you relax. Good luck!
2006-10-25 15:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be the one to do all the calling, let her have the chance to give you a call once and awhile!! I'm sure she enjoys spending time with you and doesn't mind you calling, but you don't want to bother her too much, I'm sure she has a lot going on. So just be the one to be there for her if she needs you. If things aren't bad between the two of you now, don't overthink this. Have fun, be young and worry later!!!
2006-10-25 15:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by EllieMae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe you should ask her and if she's a true friend she will tell you the truth. If you don't know how to ask her just say, "Hey I was wondering do you get annoyed by us hanging out a lot and me calling you a lot?" but whatever you do if she says yes just sometimes don't say anything like OMG you hate me you never want to hang out with me and so forth.
Hope I Helped.
Krissi.
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2016-09-01 02:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are overthinking the relationship. For some reason you are thinking maybe you do not deserve an honest relationship with someone older whom you look up to. Just relax. We all know as women that if someone is annoying us we will let them know!
2006-10-25 15:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel that away at all.If both of you are best friend I am sure she looks forward to your calls,and I think she would of let you know by now that you are calling her to much.I wouldn't worry about it unless she said something
2006-10-25 15:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by silly_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe so..try slacking up & see if she calls you. if you're thinking you're becoming annoying, then maybe you are. sometimes absence does make the heart grow fonder.you never said how often you call but if you call every day, try every other day
2006-10-25 15:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by DEWEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends, I talk to my best friend on the phone every day and usually several times a day at that.
2006-10-25 15:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you where annoying her then she would probably tell you.. So just keep being a good friend and she will be also.
2006-10-25 15:37:11 · answer #11 · answered by Not Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋