What type of a man would do this to a woman?

Question

He pursued me, big time..said he loved me and wanted to marry me. I spent a few days with him at his place and he spent a week with me after that. He came to see me the weekend of his class reunion and I didn't know he was going to it. He spent Friday night with me, class reunion was Sat. night, he left Sunday morning, then the following Fri. I received an email stating he was breaking up with me. Through prayer, I asked for closure..I remembered his password to his email and once I opened it up, all these emails from another woman came up. He took her to his class reunion and he went to her after he left my apartment that Sunday morning and spent Sun. and Mon. night with her. He called me Tuesday night letting me know he got home and said he loved me..which he also told me the weekend he spent with me. This man is 63 years old..so I ask, what type of a man would think and act like this? He was just divorced in April after 38 years of marriage..I was not around when this started.

Answer 1

the type that dont care if they hurt women especally.....

Answer 2

No matter how old anyone is, it just isn't wise for women to spend time at someone's place and let them guys stay at their place. This kind of thing (as what happened to you) happens too often, and women shouldn't go "hook, line, and sinker" into relationships as quickly as they often do.

I'm not blaming you for his lousy behavior, but that behavior isn't all that rare in men. No doubt about it, he's a giant, lying, jerk.

If there's a next time, I would hope you would take things a little more slowly in order not to get in too deep too early.

Its only October. He has only been divorced for six months apparently. That would seem to say you had only gone out with him for a few months at the most. Not many people know they want to get married in that short a time.

I don't mean to come across as non-supportive of you, because its a lousy thing that happened. Since it happened, though, it would seem to me the best you can do is not let yourself have this type of things happen again. There are nice and decent men out there. Its just that you didn't happen to end up with one of the last time around.

Is there any chance the e.mails could have been faked because he knew you had his password? Is there any chance he just wanted to break up, didn't know how, and thought he'd open a new e.mail account under "Mary's" name and send himself a few e.mails back and forth? I know that sounds extreme and bizarre, but you never know what people may do if they don't want to hurt you and would rather you hate them....

He's crummy. You're wiser now. You're better off without him - and maybe he knew that too. Best wishes

(You may want to reconsider spying on people's e.mail, though, because sometimes you're better off not seeing some things.)

Answer 3

He broke up with you in an email...a man who lives near you. He's on an ego trip that wont last...maybe he's needing this from a long marriage. Some people do things that dont make sense to other cuz theyre in a state of limbo...not knowing what path to take cuz their original dream ended in a divorce after 38 years!! So sad! He's not done getting his fill of re boosting his deflated ego, hon. If you really liked him, just tell him when he comes down from his mental high...that you'd be okay with seeing him if youre not already engaged elsewhere. Leave ur door open. Take care.

Answer 4

A D**K! He's probably having a great old time playing the field now that he's divorced. Be happy for the moment, but move on. He's a confused male, and there's nothing worse than that! Really, he's a game player at 63!! and you don't need that. So, find someone that cares.

Answer 5

The type of man who doesn't know how to treat his lady with respect, and quite frankly, a desperate man who thinks he has a good thing going. You didn't deserve what he put you though. I'm so sorry. He's probably acting like he just want to feel what it's like to be in love, but won't even consider how you feel. That happens a lot.

Answer 6

To him, being divorced after all those years of marriage was probably like a bird finally being let out of a cage... there's nothing that they want more than to fly away & be free.
Free to play, free to explore... no more being caged up because of commitment... no more serious relationships with a woman... just fun & games.

Answer 7

He's a *** hole. Doesn't matter the age--just a rude immature ******. No wonder he's divorced after 38 years. Lucky for you that you did not get into the relationship any further. Write him off, and kick it to the curb.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like he was just using you until he connected with someone else, and he probably do the same thing to the new woman he's seeing. I'm sorry this had to happen to you. Some men can be total pigs.

Answer 9

girl dont sweat the small stuff... He still thinks he's a player.... lmao.. old fart ain't nothin but a payor now. did you have a good time... sounds like you did .. chalk it up as a good movie, and you were just into it too much. What can you get out of a man that old, besides his check.. don't be mad .. he just didnt want you to have it.

Answer 10

most men, not all, are pigs. they care more about themselfs then they do about the people around them. dont take it personally hes probly just going to do the same to the other girl. and the next and next. im greatly sorry that this happend to you, but im sure that you will find someone who is much better for you, and that will treat you with the respect that you deserve. untill you find that special someone, hang on. try to fucus more on the other, more important things in your life.

Answer 11

He is what we bloody call in England as a sad old fookin tosser. An ancient knobhead. Dont bother calling him or chasing him with that age, I'm not sure he can still bloody run.