My husband seems to have an orgasm way too soon. It's like 2-3 minutes. We have all kinds of sex toys, but I'm tired of using them. I want him to give me an orgasm again.......any ideas? The prolong gels and condoms make me numb too, so it's no help.
2006-10-25 15:15:14 · 20 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Were both 25, no drugs or alcohol is involved.
2006-10-25 15:21:11 · update #1
Hi Heather!! :o) Most men orgasm in 2 to 3 minutes - IF they are going at it - non-stop. This is why most men - if they wish to prolong the 'experience' will use the old 'stop and start' method. When a guy feels like he is getting 'close' - he will STOP and move on to doing something else [like using his tongue on you - or whatever] until the feeling passes. Then start again. Perhaps that's something you could lovingly suggest to your husband. Going at it non-stop for hours on end is the 'stuff' of porno videos!! Have a great day!! [And a great NIGHT - too - for that matter!!] Craig!! :o)
2006-10-25 23:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
See if he'll give you oral sex for at least 15 mins,from what Ive heard the clit needs so much stimulation before a woman can orgasm and Im pretty sure its 20 mins worth and try to get into a position that he doesnt enjoy as much,but you still like(lots of positions,just a matter of experimenting) and ask him to warn you when he feels too "excited" then move on to something non-stimulating for him but stimulating for you.
2006-10-25 15:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by prettybelle7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him lick you to orgasm.
Also - try this - about a minute into it, grab the base of his penis and hold on with a squeeze - enough to cause a tiny bit of pain - that should hold off his orgasm.
Then when you go again he'll probably go again in 2-3 mins, but you might be able to time it again.
Note - while doing this sort of thing, you won't be able to orgasm yourself cos you are too busy :)
So get him to use his tongue and fingers, but the exercise will help his stamina.
2006-10-25 15:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I have heard, although do not have to try personally, is have him withdraw when he starts feeling close and firmly pinch the tip of his manhood until he calms down a bit, then start again. It is supposed to help retrain his responses after only a few times. Also, a lot of men can start up again after an orgasm and while they might not come again they are usually able to maintain an erection for longer the second time.
2006-10-25 15:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has the same problem according to him he just needs more practice. I am not sure of that method but you could always try oral sex first then if he orgasms too soon at least you would have gotten off before then.
2006-10-25 15:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by fargone14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try calling 1800605050 Australian Mens Institute. There nasal delivery technology is supposed to be the best, something about a longer ride without lessening the feeling.
I find the thing that helps me last as long as I do is:
1.Take deep breaths
2.Relax
3. Be confident (that includes you re-assuring and complimenting without being patronising)
4.Practice makes perfect.
2006-10-25 15:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by Tridda AKA K.B.J.G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's over 40 it's normal in a lot of men, just age.
That is why viagra was invented.
Alcohol consumption and being out of shape are the #1 causes.
2006-10-25 15:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a session of open communication with hubby.
let him know eactly how you feel about not having your opportunity to orgasm.
ask your husband to pull out just before he reaches the point of no return. when the feelings of ejaculation subside, let him enter you again. keep this up for 3-4 times. this will give you more time to reach your climax. if you don't, make sure you ask/tell him you still want your share. he can give you oral sex, finger f--k you, etc.
marriage, to be successful, has to be gratifying and sexually satisfying for both partners. each has the obligation to the other to meet his/her partner's sexual wants, desires, and needs.
good luck!
2006-10-25 15:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't let him quit until his job is done-pleasing you! He should be able to come again in 10-20 minutes or so, and in the meantime, he should be enjoying you, and making sure you are pleasured. Don't wait til it is time to go to bed, it is too easy for the guy to roll over and go to sleep.
Always try for Round 2, and possibly Round 3 if you can!
2006-10-26 08:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-08 12:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by Lynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋