She lives out of state, rarely comes home. All she wants is the attention of everyone around her, and has no regard for anyone else that is around. She is my bf's sister, and he cant stand her either. She has to make sure she runs the show, and lectures him about school and other parts of his life. She thinks she is his mother, when his mother passed away this past year, and she wasn't really there when his mom was ill, but everything is always "me, me, me". She has said things about me behind my back and to my face, and she turns against my guy, who has enough on his plate already. I have wanted to say something back at her, but Id rather have a pleasant weekend with her than her lecturing or forcing her opinions on everyone. I also want to help my guy out, because she really knows how to be condescending and bitchy, and by the time she gets there, he wishes her gone.
2006-10-25 15:13:54 · 6 answers · asked by overwhelmed85 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Didn't need the details, the answer's simple. Heavy duty drugs, or heavy duty firepower.
2006-10-25 15:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't be around her the entire weekend. Go to dinner with her. Go to a movie, (she keep her trap shut there) - Keep your time with her limited. If you can't get away with that, make her cringe back but in a nice way. When she brings up something distasteful call her bluff. Let her know in front of everyone that she is being rude. Usually that does the trick. If it doesn't invest in a pair of ear plugs LOL
2006-10-25 15:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, now, are you really friends?
Make sure you set your boundaries....limit your time, make other plans, and of course see your friends, or do work on the computer, .......don't set yourself up for a great big fall if you let anybody dictate your time and energy if you really can't stand them.....So set boundaries...say few hours the first day, and not sure about the rest....but I'll definitely call you when I'm free.
Some people makes us happy twice....once
when they come into our lives, and
Once again when they leave........best regards to limitation as to time with people who are toxic to us....got that we all have those toxic people, but we can limit their exposure.
2006-10-25 15:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is just keep remembering the old cliche "you can choose your friends, but not your family," and take her with a grain of salt. Also, be happy she is not out more often! Dont be mean to her, if you want to avoid a squabble. Just take calming breaths and let what she says pass over you, and you can say terrible things to her, as long as it is in your head.
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 15:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by nirnaeth_arnoedad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've had the same problem...my boyfriend's sister did not even offer him a place to stay when his roommates kicked him out, so he came to stay with me.... i didn't mind, because i care for him, but every time we have a fight only NOW does she tell him to come and stay with her....she's a harpie and a *****....i told him that if she really loved him as a brother, she would've at least offered to help....she's always playing the martyr whenever anything goes wrong.....i know how you feel... all i can say is do what i do grin and bear it.... i told my boyfriend that we are going to move out of state.....try to put some "distance" in between them...either that or try to be the better person... trust me, i know how you feel... i really despise her, but she is his older sibling, and i can't change the fact that she was born.........
2006-10-25 15:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by BOOYAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get an ipod
and charge it alotta
and yeah
ahaha
2006-10-25 15:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by donniotran 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋