What do you do when your self confidence is at an all time low?

Question

what do u have to do to feel pretty? all of my friends are gorgeous and get all the guys, but when it comes to me, ive got nothing! my friends have slim and perfect bodies, but i have this average heap that no one would want to look at. i love my friends to death, but being with them makes my confidence disappear. what do i do?

Answer 1

Look, I hope you are friends with these girls because they are nice and you have something in common not just getting guys. If not then you might need to get some new buddies that have other things to do besides looking for guys. I know you have heard it all before but you are not just a body. If they get the guys how come they're still out there looking? Why don't they ever keep one and leave you out there to get the ones they leave behind?
You need to do things for you. Go out with other people now and then. Maybe you'll have a chance in a different atmosphere. Hanging out with the crowd isn't always the way to meet a man. Talk to other people you know and find out where they go and see if your married friends know someone that needs a friend. Join a singles group, you might be surprised. Take a hot bath, put on your best outfit, do the makeup and really get yourself done up and then go out with one friend. Maybe not the prettiest, maybe the quietest to a different place. Mingle and don't be afraid to ask your co workers and relatives where the single men are when you are talking to them. good luck

Answer 2

Be the best you that you can be. Take care of yourself, and know that sometimes people look great when they are young, but turn into wrinkled piles of mush when they get older.

It can take awhile to see improvement in yourself, so try to take pictures often so you can actually see the improvement over the months.

And don't beat yourself up. Beauty is just skin deep -- the really great guys are the ones who have a sense of humor and like to talk about things. And they are looking for more than a perfect body, so be sure to develop your personality, too.

I'm not going to kid you though -- looking good is important. But you can do a lot with average! Do what you can.

BTW, you don't like hanging around with your friends because they are gorgeous, right? They are fun and friendly people who make you laugh, right? A good friend is tons more valuable than a good guy. (-: Of course, the best thing is a good guy who is a good friend as well. It just takes time, and meeting a lot of people.

Answer 3

First, find other friends...I had a friend who considered me her 'reference point' - when she wanted to look tiny and delicate she hung out with me...made me love her a lot, but I'd have never known if she hadn't got drunk and told me. (On my booze yet!) Have you considered that you might find some friends who think YOU look good?

Personally, I think about my cats, how they walk into a room knowing they're the most beautiful thing in the world...and try to walk and act like that. After a while, you may even start to believe it...but whether you do or not, your visible attitude affects others' perceptions of you, and they will see you more as you want them to. That might also help boost your confidence a little!

Answer 4

I used to be an ugly duckling and I HATED myself.. I know exactly how you feel.

What I did was I realized that moping and complaining wasn't going to fix anything. I completely dedicated myself to working out and eating right. I did my homework, read Shape, Self and Fitness magazine's religiously and worked out EVERY single day.

What I did was pop in Tae Bo. Even if I had no intention to work out, I just put the tape in. Once you start watching it, it's like "well I might as well" and then it becomes a habit.

I hope this helps!

Answer 5

i know that you may roll your eyes at this but to feel pretty you have to find certian things that make you happy with the way you look and expan them. I don't have a slime hourglass figure, but I know i look smaller in black. I know when I have on boots or stellito heels it makes me look taller and smaller at the same time so I wear boots. I know simi tight jeans black boots with a black sweater(cause its cold here) makes me feel slim and pretty. Do your hair in a style that looks right to you, wear you favorite eyeshadow with clear lipgloss (or a color u like) most of the time when you think you look good and you feel happy men see that and they want to be around you. I gave you examples but the truth is NO ONE can make you feel bad but you and theres always someone out their that will love your body the way it is(Alot of men I know don't like supa slim sistas ok they like a women with curves, who eats what she wants and knows what she wants)

Answer 6

OMG i know what you feel like.... i have friends with PERFECT bodies and it makes me sick well it use too... but i went out and bought some really hot cloths that fit my body well and look soo good on me... and i always wore make up and had my hair fixed no matter what... and guys noticed me.. and now i have a wonderful boyfriend and you know what they have?? a lot of hoeish men chasing them cause they are soo hot but they can't keep a man... be yourself don't try to please no one...soo good luck hunnie!!

Answer 7

listen to fun music read your faveorite book watch a funny movie dress up make yourself feel beatiful if you feel beatiful it shouldnt matter what other people think and dont worry about being a heap....its not to bad i know how you feel cause thats how i am i just try not to think of it and think of something that makes me happy hope i helped and hope you feel better
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Answer 8

Wow I do not know....Um you just have to love yourself and beauty will come later

Answer 9

Cry, afterwards you'll feel better.

Answer 10

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