I have these immensly strong feelings for this girl. I've never wanted someone so bad. But she is straight, and of course she doesn't know I love her. Us being together could never happen. I can't stand constantly thinking about her, fantasizing, and having false hopes. It just makes me sad, depressed, and makes me want to kill my self more than I already do. How can I get over her?
2006-10-25 14:58:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well we're only in high school...I see her everyday. And no...I would never get her drunk and take advantage of her, but thanks for getting a laugh out of me. :)
2006-10-25 15:04:22 · update #1
Try to distance yourself from her. You're still young, and plenty of other fishes will come in time. It just seems hard at this time because you see her all the time. So, distance yourself from her. Get a hobby. Better yet, find someone who can take your attention off her. Just try to make sure this other person is a lesbian or a bi this time around. Don't even think of killing yourself just because of a crush. You wouldn't want to miss all the good things that are just around the corner, would you? Best of luck!
2006-10-25 17:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not think about her as the one who doesn't want to be with you because she's straight, but think about her as the one who doesn't want to be with you because she doesn't want to get into a relationship with you.
I observed on (very small sample space, it is true) lesbians that they believe that every girl has lesbian tendencies they just do not allow it to come out.
This might be true, I don't know, I'm a guy... but regardless, this idea might make you keep a small "flame" of hope alive that a relationship might happen between the two of you.
So in order to kill this little hope, and cut the emotional tie, just tell yourself that she doesn't like you as a partner (which is true, regardless of her sexual preference) and that you cannot have her.
Believe me, there is someone for you, with whom you will be much happier. Do not give up.
There is a big probability that the "personality image" of your crush is very deformed from her real personality. Realize that there is a high probability that you have a crush with an image, and you just embody that image through your crush. To increase your chances of truly meeting the real embodiment (or a very close one) of your image, you have to let go, and meet others.
As I said, I'm a guy, straight, but I'm very open minded. I have no hidden agenda such as: if you let go of her, you might find the right guy. I hope you'll find your dream girl, and wish you good luck.
2006-10-25 22:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by Hesse 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For a start I would recommend reading the Wikipedia article on "limerence" . I have had a similar expereince and having a name put on what I was feeling and reading about it helped sort things out a little.
Other than that the only things I can recommend are counseling (helped me a lot) and finding a new relationship. Even finding someone else who is appealing to you and thinking about them can help.
2006-10-25 22:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by coppersmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well honey.. u cant change the world.. being gay is just being gay.. u can control someone to have him.. u gotta give in to ur fate..
but anyway.. i think u might still can have her.. becoz if u show her the REAL love she needs and she doesnt have she will take u no matter what sex u were..
so i think that u have to stay near her.. try to show her what u feel for her.. in every possible way and day.. and im sure that she\ll try thinkin everyday about u.. and one day her thoughts about u in her head will win.. and she will be all ur urs..
u juss gotta know how to make her fall for u.. and im sure she will if u took the right steps..
2006-10-25 23:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by heba! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wheww.....I feel ya.
If this is a friend you are attracted to then you will have to choose to hide your feelings. If she is straight and you do not want to upset the friendship you have then quietly fantasize. do not act on it and eventually the fantasies unrealized will become a memory for you and you alone.
2006-10-25 22:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't see her everyday. I honestly don't know the answer to that question. Maybe you should pick up a hobby to get your mind off of her.
2006-10-25 22:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe finding someone else to crush over will work.
2006-10-25 22:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know she is straight? Does everyone know you're gay? Get her drunk and take advantage of her, like guys do.
2006-10-25 22:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by normobrian 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You have to let her go...that's it..the whole answer...and you can do it...it's your mind/your body...you make your own decisions...she is an impossible dream..you can't have her...don't torture yourself.
2006-10-26 00:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if ur old enough get her drunk !
if not find someone else who is gay
good luck
2006-10-25 22:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by jessie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋