I dated this girl for about a week. Things ended up not working out - for reasons that I don't completely understand, but she said that she wanted a friendship. I was okay with that (she seemed like a really cool girl) - but she claims to have NO time for anything and makes ZERO effort to talk to me! I'd send her messages on the computer, and she'd be really short with me, and in one instance, yelled at me for being annoying. She never returns my calls. Won't even come out for big events sponsored by our college. She barely acknowledges me when she sees me...I feel like she wants me out of her life and just didn't have the guts to say so when she ended our brief relationship. Should I just forget about her? Right now, I feel like I’m really struggling to bring any meaning to our “friendship” and it feels like we’re complete strangers. We have a history – but if you spent a day in either of our lives, you’d think we didn’t even know one another. It’s so sad.
2006-10-25 14:39:06 · 18 answers · asked by The Rainmaker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I can only put so much effort into a friendship. It takes two to bring meaning to ANY relationship, romantic or otherwise…is it time for me to completely let go and move on? It seems so ridiculous to have to give up on something so nice as a friendship…but I really get the feeling she doesn’t want me a friend.
2006-10-25 14:39:22 · update #1
It sounds to me like your hunch is correct, think of it like this, why would you put so much effort into a so called friendship, when the friend yells at you for being annoying? If i were you I would back off, when you see her acknowledge her and be nice but only for your own moral, make it a short acknowledgement , just smile and say hi, and walk on, she'll get the hint that you are not happy with the situation, and either she'll come around or she won't . If she doesn't than why would you want to remain friends anyways? But you're right it is sad, sounds to me like she is losing a good friend, good luck!
2006-10-25 14:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by dannydolphin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it up. From your rhetoric it sounds like you anticipated and wanted more than a friendship. We agree to accept friendship when we fall in love because under the guise of friendship, we still have a foot in the door. Friendship can blossom into love, etc, etc. The only meaning I see from her behavior is that she does not want your love or your friendship at this time. You sound like a good person and educated but this relationship didnt work for you.
2006-10-25 14:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A week of dating doesn't make a relationship or a friendship. She probably told you that because she didn't want to date you anymore, but was trying not to hurt your feelings either.When women say that, it DOESN"T mean they want to hang around with you or see you on a constant basis, wouldn't that be dating! She means as an acquaintance, someone she knows. Let it go, quit e-mailing her, calling her or looking for her. It's called stalking.
2006-10-25 15:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by hope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, forget about her. Truthfully, when a girl says she wants to be friends after a break-up, it means she just wants to feel better about blowing you off. At least that has been my experience. That whole, "Let's be friends" or "I hope we can stay friends" is B.S. and the girl just says it to soften the blow and give the guy false hope.
I am not trying to be pessimistic, I hope that she really does want to be your friend, but stop trying so hard. She probably needs space so let her come to you with her "friendship" and just let her know she's welcome. Thats the best you can do.
2006-10-25 14:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by tiger_lilly33186 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
normally when a girl says "lets just be friends" the male is expected to get in a mood and never speak to her again. your wasting your time, she tried to end it without hurting your feelings. let it go. move on and show her you are a better person than she is and you dont need her friendship.
2006-10-25 14:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by stimpy792003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt want to be friends. SHe only said she wanted to be friends because she didn't want to sound or feel like a B@&#* because she didn't want to date or hang out with you anymore. SO by continuing to contact her she probably is telling her friends you are a "stalker" (ok Im sorry chicks throw that around SO loosly) Stop it immediatly for your pride and dignity. There are other chicks who will date you. Just not her.
2006-10-25 14:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by Shazzam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like guys tell girls they'll call, girls sometimes tell guys they want to be friends when they really want to be free. Just move on, it's over. Next time you encounter her, just turn the other way and keep going. She'll get the hint.
2006-10-25 14:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by dating? Sex? She definitely is not interested in you, so you need to move on with your life. It takes two to have a friendship.
2006-10-25 15:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a really nice guy. Girls are like that sometimes. I would say, you are worth much more than what she has to offer (which is nothing) So, slowly and subtly distance yourself from her. Goodluck!
2006-10-25 14:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by dumpsterdd90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget about her you are not suppose to beg nobody especially a girl because girls there are a lot. just find someone that really wants to be your friend or girlfriend good luck bye.
2006-10-25 14:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋