If a man (husband, partner) had a habit of staring at sexy women, says he will stop staring at them because it hurts you. Could he be for real? ...lol.. I know women won't give looking at other men a second thought if they are really happy in their relationship. However, if a man is REALLy happy in a relationship is he capable of NOT looking at women in a sexy-kind of way??
2006-10-25 14:36:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hear ya. I feel that if love is involved then it can change. It's quite uncomfortable to have to witness someone you love get swayed by females (lol) I like it when a man can stand his ground with women, you know?
2006-10-25 14:45:26 · update #1
*Yaay* THERE IS HOPE!!I knew it!
2006-10-25 14:50:23 · update #2
WOW I'm getting some REAL answers here!! (The truth is always hard to swallow) Thank you for confirming my Faith in men and to know that there are men out there, that are like me when it comes to having an eye only for your partner. Makes me feel like there are TRULY admirable men that I haven't met yet.
2006-10-25 15:07:26 · update #3
I've tried telling him that I'd start looking at men, but seriously I can't! It doesn't feel right and I'm just not attracted to other men. I have eyes only for him. I wonder if I should be with a man who is more like me. Who only has eyes for me.
2006-10-25 15:45:24 · update #4
I'm not going to "do it back to him" THAT would be immature.
2006-10-25 15:50:58 · update #5
*Browneyegirl* I hear what your saying. I don't want to change anyone. I may have messed up in actually getting married in the first place. Here I am thinking he's content but in reality his eyes are looking at sexy women. Maybe I should think about where this is going. I'm the only person here to blame, as I am the only one who brought it upon myself to get married to a man who is not content.
2006-10-25 16:23:49 · update #6
Yes,if he is strong enough.
2006-10-25 14:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are more visually oriented than women are. When men look at women it is like looking at a car: we look at parts - the legs, the breast, the bottom, the top, the face, etc. - it is almost as if we need to get more data to maintain the optimal level of women sightings in our internal women database. It is harmless for the most part but sometimes it isn't. Which leads me to your situation.
A true gentleman would not turn his head to ogle another chick when he is with his lady! Any man that does so is immature and lacks respect. He is not following "man law" and needs to be flogged while being forced to watch re-runs of Oprah! All joking aside, I think that you need to have a talk with this fella and tell him that he needs to learn to have respect for your feelings. And don't rationalize his inconsiderate behavior. When you do that you only are allowing the behavior to continue. On a side note, as long as he is not eyeing up one of your girlfriends or someone you may come across in your daily existence, then it is OK for him to do the guy thing when he is not around you. As long as he respects you when he is with you, then what he does away from you - provided no emotional or sexual affairs occur - is no big deal - so don't sweat it. Best of luck...
2006-10-25 15:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Real men are able to respect their mates by not allowing their eyes to wander. My future husband never looks at a girl, and if he does it's because he's laughing about what she's wearing or something. It' called integrity. Men & women have to protect themselves from losing their integrity.
If he is having a hard time giving this up, maybe you should increase the positive attention he gets at home from you. If he's getting all he needs from you, he won't be looking for it any where else. You both may want to read "Every Man's Battle" by Stephen Arterburn. This could help him strengthen himself against jeopardizing your relationship, and it could help you understanding what he's going through & some of his needs. There is also an "Every Woman's Battle" by Shannon Ethridge. Both are really great!
2006-10-25 15:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by karime444 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really need to grow up some. Looking at the opposite sex is very normal. I have been married 37 years. I still do it and so does my wife. If you are secure in your marriage it won't bother you. It is all about trust and if you don't have that you have nothing. When he stops looking , then you should be bothered. That's a sure sign of trouble. Then again if he looks at them like a boy looks at candy, you may have a problem. Start looking at the guys and see how he reacts.
2006-10-25 15:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by 10 to 20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, at least one man is capable of "not looking".
I am very much still in love with my wife and when we are out and about she tends to notice the stylish/pretty women way before I clue in at all.
Of course then she watches me like a hawk to see if I am going to notice, and 95% of the time I don't. The remaining 5% of the time for some silly reason she points them out to me --guess it's some sort of internal test she does-- and I just tell her, "yeah nice outfit" or whatever she's noticed and then just continue paying attention to my sweetheart.
The only exception to that so far is when a fairly young, "PYT" cut in front of me at the mall and I just about tripped over her. So when I looked down to catch myself, the wife thought I was looking. My response was "at what, jailbait?" and she just laughed because she realized that my "look" was all about collision avoidance and nothing else.
Love means a man doesn't have to look. True love means a man won't look.
2006-10-25 14:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by HeartSpeaker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From my experiences, if they do it once, they are most likely to do it again, even if they promise they won't (and you try your hardest to make them happy). I've had to deal with the same situation, said he'd stop looking, and instead he cheated. Not once, and each time I took him back. He WAS the man of my life, but I wasn't the only woman for him. Hey, guess it's part of life. If your man can change and I'm not saying he can't, but if so... good for you. Just try to be careful hon. Wish you all happiness with whatever your choice is.
2006-10-25 15:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Colleen S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's hard not to look sometimes because men are so visually hardwired. However, if a man is completely content and satisfied, happy and otherwise joyful with you, he will not look around anymore because it's hard to find someone special. Anyone can find a date, or thier next bedpartener but its hard to find a good and healthy life partener, so he should treat that with respect.
2006-10-25 14:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if a man sees a sexy woman of course he will glance, i don't think it has anything to do about him being happy in a relationship. it's just the way men are as long as he is just looking and not touching there really isn't a problem.
2006-10-25 14:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a guy thing..I (sadly) do the same thing.I love my girlfriend more than anything in the world but if I see a girl walk by sometimes I am tempted to look.But dont give up hope,guys change when love gets involved.
2006-10-25 14:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by shan_997 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say no. Because that would be changing him and we all know we can't change anyone, expectually men!
You have to expect him for who he is and yes even if he can't stop looking at other women. If you can't get use to that then you might want to think about being with him. Because what I think is if he can't stop looking, he may not be that interested. Think about that.
2006-10-25 14:40:17 · answer #10 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that isn't precise in any respect, I propose yeah, some adult males carry out a little of those issues despite the fact that that's ridiculous to declare that each and one and all adult males do. I certainly have been with my boyfriend for over 18 months and we are in love, he consistently treats me with appreciate and loves me - he does have thoughts and thoughts, he's no longer barbaric nor merciless, he would not kill something (to boot in keeping with possibility an ant), and our intercourse isn't meaningless. So adult males are able to love, merely no longer all of them.
2016-11-25 20:56:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋