i love my girlfriend. we been together for about 2 yrs, we had a big break up a while back and we got back together, we also have son. i keep on looking at girls. not checking them out. i mean it goes though my mind to go over there get there number or just talk. i feel really guilty, even if i haven't done anything but it going though my head and its killing me. i don't know wat to do. I love my girlfriend and i don't want to break up my family. the reason i broke up with my girlfriend was because she talking to other guys and hiding from me. is it that i want to get back at her or wat. plz help
2006-10-25 14:36:33 · 13 answers · asked by savage_linx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe the responsibility of having a family is too much for you and this is how you are dealing with it. If you listen to your gut you might already know the answer to this question.
2006-10-25 14:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have a kid together and no matter if you split up the next day he is and will always be apart of both of you. Dont stay with her if your having these feelings that you cant control. She has made you feel like you cant trust her to a certain point so you probably want to hurt her back. But if you love her like you said you do then you wont cross the line and do something to jeapardize your relationship.You are bothered by her talking with these men and hiding it but you must of gotten over it to of taken her back. If things are going better for the 2 of you right now dont mess it up control your impulses. I hoped I helped I am better at marriage problems.
2006-10-25 21:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, Jealousy is a very wasted emotion!!!
You may be trying to get back at her for talking to guys, but the two of you need to both realize that it takes both male and female friends to make a well rounded relationship.
When the two of you are together.....why do you come home every night?? Is it because you HAVE to or because you WANT to? That is something that the two of you need to seriously think about.
Sometimes we just need to talk to someone else to remind us that we are still attractive...but you need to end it there and go home and get your strongest validation from her!!!! And, vice versa!! But, if the two of you cannot get over this jealousy thing...then you both need to put your blinders on when you are out and not even look at anyone else but each other!!
But, that would be a very sad state if you can't grow up and get over that silly jealousy stint.
2006-10-26 01:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she hiding from you while talking to other guys? Why are you looking at other girls? Evidentally, you two were not ready to be parents and married or together. I would guess that you two are young. Maybe you do want to get back at her, but playing the field is very dangerous for the both of you. You need to get counseling if you both want to stay together. If not, end it now for the kid's sake. It is easier when the children are young. Revenge can be sweet but deadlyl. Be careful.
2006-10-25 21:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by greeneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obvisouly you two have issues. My question is why would two people want to be together if they want to look and talk to other people? Don't tell me it's for your family. Do you think it's heathly for your child or children to see mommy and daddy "talk" or "hang out" with other men or women?
I think you should end it. Why drag something on if it's not working??? I've been there and it's not worth it. You want to think of you kid but your kid(s) know if your unhappy and it's better for them if you don't do that.
2006-10-25 21:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont u start lookin at ur girlfriend instead of other girls, then maybe she"ll only look at u, could be she feels insecure!
2006-10-25 22:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your looking to settle the score. If you really love her look but don't touch or talk
2006-10-25 21:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by traci s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love her u shouldn't "get back at her"...rather let it slide and make sure she doesn't do it again
2 wrongs dont make a right
go ahead, look at girls...you can't just NOT look at them lol
but avoid the privates ect
2006-10-25 21:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by pimpin around the world 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like u want to stay with her you need to really think about what you want and what will be best in the long run for both of you
2006-10-25 21:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt be with her if you just dont want to break up your little family there, because if thats the reason your with her you bound to cheat and so is she, sometimes we are with people because its accomodating..
2006-10-25 21:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋