are girls as shallow and animal like as they appear?

Question

Seems nearly all women follow a similar pattern, carefully and fastidiously choose the best man they can with the most money, assets, friends, attitude, looks and genetics (looks) they can, who is ready to commit. They somehow get pregnant and get married, then desire to be owned and looked after until they give birth. It seems women are so much more controlled by biology then men. Seems absolutely everything women do is influenced by biology. What do you think? Are men more influenced?

Well men do look for a healthy woman, i.e. big healthy breasts are better for feeding babies, waste 2 thirds of the breast size around, ect. it just seems most women want similar things, wealth, baby's, love, commitment. I don't know, I don't want to generalise half the human race really, just curious

“I have absolutely no desire to be owned and I'm not at all shallow. I'm not one of those girly pretty things who are interested in lip-gloss and money, I'm interested in more cerebral matters.”

Well I do think many women want to be “owned” when they get married, loose there identity and second name, wear a ring suggesting there taken, sometimes even cover there heads so only there husband may see. And intellect nowadays is still viewed as an attribute like money. An intelligent man can provide better than a “dumb” manual worker.

Well I guess we are all somewhat controlled by biology beyond our control. I personally would like to think were not all sheep mindlessly believing we have more control than we do but the sad fact is I don’t think we can escape it.

I know on here I sound really awful, witch I guess I am a bit I guess but I have never even had a friend who’s a woman, let alone a relationship. I mean I’m 6’4, muscley, 18, I have a nice car and I’m doing 6 A levels and a part time job, I do have quite a few friends but none that are women and I do put a lot into looks, and I know I sound vain, I’m not really, I’m quite shy really but I always try to be nice and polite and gentleman like. I just have never ever connected with a woman on an intellectual level. I really don’t care about looks in the slightest nor sex really. I just can’t beguin to understand woman.

Answer 1

are men not attracted to women with big boobs?
if that is not a biological influence, i don't know what is?

Answer 2

Both sexes are shallow, but it different ways.

Men want a beautiful woman.
Women want a fun Man.

Obviously beautiful women get more attention than plain women. And fun men get more attention than boring men. And I'm sorry but if you are a woman and you say that the main component in the man you are after is being a good provider then you are decieving yourself and contributing to the global deception that women are more righteous than men! Double standard indeed! Women want a man who can give them a good time. Period. Look at the profiles on the matchmaking websites.

Is it shallow to want a fun man? Yep. Will a boring man make a worse husband? Nope. Probably be a better husband/father in fact. Of course that depends on what constitutes a good huband/father to you. If being a good provider is a good measure of being a good husband/father, then being boring/fun is superfluous.

If anything men are LESS shallow than women because beauty is a somewhat accurate measure of a woman's ability to conceive and stay healthy throughout the pregnancy as well as the likelihood of her nurturing her children. Feminine women are generally considered more beautiful. A more feminine woman has more estrogen, which in turn helps here health throughout the pregnancy and the birth. More estrogen is also a component in a tendency towards compassion. So a more feminine woman is biologically more likely to rear children to adulthood as well as to raise emotionally healthy adults. And THAT is why men are less shallow. We are MORE connected to our animal nature, but women are more removed from their animal nature. Shallowness is removing yourself from nature, not the other way around.

Oh, and by the way. Women want an attractive man too. Ever see a suuuuper gorgeous woman in the mall or a grocery store? Is she with a plain guy, or a real muscular/cute/hot guy?

Answer 3

Had some bad experiences w/ women or what? I think men are equally as boilogically driven. At our most base instincts.. we gotta mate! Men seem to look for women w/ the physical attributes he desires. Seems like some wanna "mate" and hit the road...move on to the next woman. All of these things are animal instinct, my friend. Seems the more technologically advanced we get, we forget about our animal instincts, ya know? It's SURVIVAL, man! The more women a man can "mate" w/, the more likely his DNA will survive. A woman looks for a man that can be a good provider...yes, for a family - that's our driving force. So... In our "evolved" society a man and a woman that find something "special" in each other decide they want to stay together, maybe raise a family, etc. If you have had some bad experiences w/ women, that sux -sorry. Hope you find a woman that is worthy of what you have to offer soon. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Yes, women are influenced by biology but so are men. Men just have much less discriminating drives (ie. if it's female, mate with it). Besides, is it really so bad to be animal like when we are animals, after all?

Women seem more calculating because they have to be, they have a lot more riding on each reproductive event than a man does. Women invest so much more time and energy into their offspring than men do, it makes evolutionary sense for them to be a lot more picky. Men, on the other hand, are more inclined to focus on sleeping with as many girls as possible, it doesn't matter so much if they have a few duff attempts because basically all they need to do to assure their genes live on is to have sex.

I'm over-simplifying things a lot but there is a great deal of research done on this, check any textbook on animal behaviour, evolutionary psychology or human sexuality.

This doesn't mean that all men and women behave in such an instinctive fashion though, we have large brains too, which can be put to good use if we so choose - and just because it's a biological instinct doesn't make it acceptable!

Answer 5

A question about reality and appearance. Not only women, but also men can seem to be something they are not, The sharpest form of this questioning though should be applied to you yourself!

Are you what you think you are? Do you only think what you are programmed to think, or do you sometimes burst out with a thought that is all your

It is not so much that the sexes deceive each other, but that we so often deceive ourselves!

Answer 6

I think men and women are as influenced by biology just as much as men. If women do all the things you mentioned instinctively and then men respond accordingly then men play just as much a role in it as women. Everything both men and women do is influenced by biology and I don't really see how you can seperate the two.......

Answer 7

I think people in general can be that way. Men go for girls with good looks alot as it's related to fertility, immune system etc. Women go for men who can provide and protect.

Yes, yes, but that's not all there is to life and dating! Anyone who believes it is lives in a bleak world.

Answer 8

I have absolutely no desire to be owned and I'm not at all shallow. I'm not one of those girly pretty things who are interested in lipgloss and money, I'm interested in more cerebral matters.

Unfortunately it's the stupid girls who give the real women of this world a bad name. I have a saying "Pretty girls are dead inside". It's usually true.

One bad apple don't spoil the whole bunch, as the Osmonds used to say...

Edited to add: Look at all the girly girls up in arms at your comments! Bless 'em, they can't handle the truth...

Answer 9

Sounds like a case of sour grapes to me.
Let me guess - a woman dumped you for someone better looking, with more money, a better car, a bigger place, etc. and now you're bitter. Get over it. Move on and find a decent woman who won't leave you when something better comes along. Or, you can take this as a hint and better yourself.

Answer 10

first thing men do is get and erection and think from their penis.....that biology enough for you?

a little poem i made up.....

men are from mars women are from Venus
men don't have a brain they think with their penis
so come on you women
be a united front
don't let these men
treat you like a....
they fk with yr body
they fk with yer soul
all men it seems
are fkin a....holes

the trouble with men is they only think in single thoughts....
women have to think for them, themselves, the kids, the shopping, the washing........should i continue.....
oh and of course go to work full time

biology is not a long enough word for our talents....

ok now i have read more of your story, i feel rather sheepish about my reply.

if i was to be completely honest it is almost every girls dream to find a nice man with a good job who can, when babies appear, support the family financially while she is at home looking after baby..(i do stress 'ALMOST') if one comes along.....

however, part of this is down to education.....if you look at childrens books you may note that a nurse for example is almost always a woman whereas a pilot is invariably a man....

men and women are conditioned from birth to think the way they do and unfortunately once a seed is sown is it very difficult to change....
society itself expects men and women roles to be as they are percieved to be (especially in this country) and unless we change the education system this will remain to be.

of course our surrounding circumstances such as divorce, cruelty and abuse for example can greatly influence our thoughts about this subject but as one becomes an adult one would hope that it became something copeable and if not then councelling were sought
i must admit that as an abuse victim myself i have been driven down a path of not likeing men very much and finding 'being in love' almost impossible hence my poem after being yet again hurt by a man.
i do know though that there are good men out there but there are good women too.....
in the end....material things, looks and brains are nothing if there is no honesty or trust.....instincts go a very long way.....you are young and yet to find the right one but when you do always have respect for each other and the rest will follow.

Answer 11

what you are asking is for is what science has been trying to discover for years why are we all so different yet frightenly alike and what really governs our responsive behaviour whether male or female its called life>We are all influenced just by different stimuli and there are very few things in life that can take an absolute like all every or words like that>SOMEONE SOMEWHERE WILL NOT FIT YOUR ALL