I have always had problems with making friends - I rarely ever have any friends. Even the "unpopular" and "nerdy" kids avoid me. I have heard several people say they thought I was annoying. And when I talk, I am *NEVER* shy, and I do strike conversations w/people, but I always seem to be more open than the person I'm talking with. Then after that, they tend to avoid me. I'm not fat or ugly, and this happens CONSISTENTLY, not just occasionally, so I think there's somethiing I'm doing wrong. I am completely being myself when I talk to students in school - so much for the "be yourself" advice.
2006-10-25 14:18:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
are you annoying or have you done things in your past to make you annoying? all i can say is ignore it. things will get better soon. just trust in the Lord and everything will get better.
2006-10-25 14:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by samikat2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between talking to somebody and talking AT
somebody. It sounds like you are doing the latter.
Rule 1. Don't be needy.
Rule 2. It is better to be on your own than in bad company.
Rule 3. If you are a guy, find a way to befriend a girl who has it altogether in looks and personality and ask her this question:
Can you tell me, from your point of view as a girl, what is wrong with me?
Let's hope you will be fortunate in finding such a girl who will also be willing to be frank with you.
If you are a girl, then find a boy and ask him : from your point of view as a guy, what is wrong with a chick like me? .. etc.
Only when you know what the problem is, can you do something to remedy it.
2006-10-25 21:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be yourself is important. It looks like you are opening to people to much to soon and people sometimes feel threatened by that. I suggest that when you start talking to someone dont be so open as you usually are. Let the other person talk to if you are doing all the talking.
2006-10-25 21:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That makes two of us!
I thought I was the only one! :)
I really can't give you much advice, since I suffer form the same "problem", but, I have found that listening to people (or trying at least) before fully expressing my thoughts helps a lot (And let me tell you, I really struggle with this) Whish you best of luck, :)
2006-10-25 21:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Payattention 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋