I have a few friends that are girls that believe in DD (Domestic Discipline). Some of them are even members of the yahoo group for it. Basically, it is the belief that when wives are disobedient to their husbands or act out of line they get punished. Usually with spanking but also with corner times, essay writing (on what they did wrong and why they shouldn't do it again), washing the wife's mouth out with soap, and sometimes forbidding to use things for example a computer or radio. This is all mutually agreed upon by both husband and wife. However, one of these girls that is married gets "silent spankings" in public where she has to go to the bathroom and put on capsazin creme on her butt to give the effect of a spanking which can last for a long time and I don't agree with that. I doubt there is anything i can do about it, but i figured i would ask. Also, there is a a few girls that don't have a boyfriend but have a "disciplinarian" who is supposed to keep them in line.
2006-10-25 14:16:38 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shouldn't that be the father's job? I mean I can understand if they have a boyfriend but these are just friends. Should I even say something to that girl about the silent spankings or just mind my own business?
2006-10-25 14:17:27 · update #1
This is NOT BDSM!! THIS IS DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE...WAY DIFFERENT...and why am i getting thumbs down for this question!?!?
2006-10-25 14:21:34 · update #2
Okay, for those of you that think i'm joking here is the link to the yahoo group. it has over 1900 members plus there are others. Quit telling me i'm a liar and giving me thumbs down. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/christiandomesticdiscipline/
2006-10-25 14:28:19 · update #3
Wow, these women are doormats. They are masochists. I think these couples get off on this stuff. It makes 'em all hot and bothered.
I guess as long as the women aren't getting hurt and the couples aren't hurting others (for instance: their children could be destroyed by watching their father force their mother to wash her mouth out with soap) than let them have their freaky deaky sh--.
2006-10-25 14:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
huh? Are we in the 21st century? Can the wives give domestic discipline to husbands when they disobey their wives, don't do housework or act like assholes?
Anyway, that doesn't sound like a good idea at all. If the wives/girls want to do that to make themselves better people, there a many other ways to do that. And what's this thing about obeying husbands? Since when is women suppose to obey man because they are man in the first place? Its not like they have better judgement or are more mature. Anyway discipline is for teaching kids to learn right and wrong. But then if these girls subject themselves to this kind of treatment, then they have lots to learn about right and wrong and standing up for themselves
2006-10-25 15:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by peaceful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some people need help. Since when did disciplining a mature woman seem like part of a equal marriage. More disturbing was the "rules laid down by husbands, and nominally agreed to by wives". Very disturbing, it may not seem like BDSM, but it sure has hell is dominion and immaturity on both the husband's and wife's parts. They shouldn't even be married in the first place if this kinda things take place... unless its some form of kinky play.
2016-05-22 14:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not even sure why your calling this Domestic Discipline. There is not supposed to be no discipline just because the wife does not obey. I'm mean it's someones wife not a slave. Those days are over with anyway. This is what you call abuse. Not even a parent is supposed to treat their children this way. What should us wives do if our husband is an *** hole? What are we supposed to do about that? Should we do Domestic Discipline?
2006-10-25 15:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I didn't even read more than the first two lines... And it is all BS...
No man should ever disrespect a woman like that...
If I was treated in this way I would be getting the heck out of there... And I wouldn't care if they took my clothes and I had to escape naked...
I think being submissive is one thing but to this extent is disgusting and repulsive...
Just because a man has a penis does not give him that power unless you let him take it.
And I have yet to find anyone I am ever willing to do any of that for... That is not love...
2006-10-25 14:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Always 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe what I'm reading, who are those girls and what kind of up bringing did they have to let a man put a hand on them.I don't know who to be mad at the most the man who thinks he has the right to put his hands on a woman or the wife who has taken us women back 100 years it's sick and it's sad.If I feel I did something I shouldn't of my husband and I will talk about it and that's that.
2006-10-25 15:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the Word of God, us wives should submit to our husbands bc the husband is head of the household. But...husbands shouldn't be spanking the wives if they don't submit. Wrong!
God says:
Col3:18-19
18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.
I think you should tell your friend about the silent spankings and how she shouldn't agree to them.
Love them.Here's another verse on love:
1Cor13:4-8
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails.
2006-10-25 14:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
What people do in the privacy of their own home, and with the consent of both parties, is no one's business. Your friends believe in Domestic Discipline which is consensual and not abusive.
I perceive that you are not into this. That is okay. I am not either. But who are we to judge those who are.
As for your friend with the capsazin creme, let's face it, she wouldn't apply it if she didn't want to. You are free to question her, but if she didn't like it, she could leave her husband.
To each their own.
2006-10-28 05:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this is foolishness very much masochistic and unfair to the wives... Would the husband do the same way if their wives would also think they disobeyed their them.. Do the husband gets the same punishment, the same treatment...
If they did then all is fair,, but if this punishment is for the wives only, then sound off,, voice out,,, this is unfair to the wives.
Suppose they wives do it the other way around, is it okey for the husband since you said this is mutually agreed.
The wife who agree to this do not know her rights and priveleges as a wife and maybe just is a willing victim to a saddist husband.. And what is the opposite of a saddist, that is what she is if she doesnt fights back...
And the husband is just plain sadistic also.
If they are your friends, sound off,, voice out.
2006-10-25 14:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by yulnores 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Short answer: No.
Long answer: God no.
Longer answer: I'm a live-and-let-live fellow, and if there are women out there (and there are) who are happier having an arrangement that their husbands will rule their lives and spank them when they disobey, then it isn't up to me to tell the women they can't do it. But, why is this a husbanding-ruling-wife thing? Are the same people in favor of arrangements where the wives set the rules and enforce them?
As a group, men are not more fit to rule marriages than women are. Adults in marriages reach compromises with each other. That's how you can tell people are adults - that they can behave well, and don't need parent-figures to tell them what to do 24/7.
2006-10-25 14:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋