well my ex contact me after 5 months of no contact ,,,he says he love me and "need me in his life" i wish i can believe him ..wat can i do? we known each other for 4 yrs
2006-10-25 14:05:39 · 19 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
did he just get out of prison? or was he with someone else and than got dumped by her? he sounds to dodgy....I'd wouldn't go....but you decide.
2006-10-25 14:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are too many if's involved. If you have a relationship going on, if he had a series of relationships that went bad, if there is trust, did he leave or you? if there are kids, if he understands what went wrong the first time around. Really, does he just want? I just want, are you going to jump at my beckon call? Does he know why there was a split up? Has the problem been resolved or are you just going to do the same things over again in hopes of a different outcome. The definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over expecting to have different outcomes.
2006-10-25 21:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize that it's a heart wrenching decision, but you have to think with your head, not with your heart right now. If you haven't heard from him for 5 months, is that because, what he had going on for these past few months fell apart for him and he knows that you will be there to lick his wounds? Will this person do this to you again and leave you high and dry? You have to be ready to fully trust someone before you can let them back in. What about rebuilding a friendship first and see what happens from there? I hope whatever decision you make Will be the best one for you...Good luck!
2006-10-25 22:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by hamera7925 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think long and hard about this. Is this really what you want to do? Why do you break up in the first place? Did he break your heart, will he break your heart again? I say keep on keeping on and move on. You broke up, you are beyond the hardest part now go on and live a little, find the happiness and then don't ever look back!!
~Best of Luck~
2006-10-25 21:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason why you two broke up is important. if it is just a agrument, can it be resolved? if it is a mistake on his part, can you still believe him and stay on in this relationship. most likely, there is already a scar in the relationship, no matter what things wont be the way it used to be. i used to have 2 relationships, 2 man that i truly love, i gave both of them a second chance. yes there is love between us, but you will realise that love wasnt enough to lead us on. some people was just not meant to be. in the end, it all ended.
2006-10-25 21:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Princess is here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say "I wish I can believe him" leads me to believe that relationship was not exactly made in heaven and there was a good reason you broke up. Your reasons for breaking up may be good reasons for you not to go back to him even though you've known him 4 years. You also did not indicate that you are still in love with him.
2006-10-25 21:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the absence of the "one" you Love sends messages into their hearts and fills their mind too with images and longing.....once you have it and lose it ...most people realize what they had after the screw up and try to get it back.....I say follow your "gut" or in this case your "heart"...If you were both meant to be...it will be EZ to come back together....listen to the inner YOU!!!
Good Luck......remember Love isnt easy ...it takes work from both sides!!!
2006-10-25 21:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by fxbeto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still love him? thats the question
If so you need to make him prove his love for you and see if he is up for the work involved of regaining trust.
you additionally need to why he all of sudden needs you are you just a fall back until someone new comes along
use your gut instinct on this and step ever so carefull as you don't need to feel that pain again.
make him work for you
2006-10-25 23:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I normally say get the hell out!!! But I guess you'll never know until you give it a second try but take it sllllllllllooooooooowwwwwwww. Can't hurt to try right??
2006-10-25 21:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by browneyedgirl3528 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very beautiful woman...I would not have left you in the first place...he must have been with somebody else and it didnt work...so now he wants you back
2006-10-25 22:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by long_hard_thick9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..before you get back if you want...talk to him first why all the sudden after 5 month he decided to call you. i think his answer is what you looking for.& if it is the right answer why not atleas you know him & you know all about him....i think you should give him a chance every body deserve one.....
2006-10-25 21:34:23 · answer #11 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋