how does a teen (around 14 or 15) deal with a parents fighting and getting to the point of divorce?

Question

The teen has hear numerous fight talks, one of their parents leaving and breaking into the home, etc.

Answer 1

What this teen needs is a proffessional counsellor who can incoporate or even direct the parents to also seek profferssional help. Such situations are overwhelming to be left to the teen alone.

Answer 2

I have solved this one before and the person who answered that you should talk with your counselor is CORRECT. A GOOD high school counselor can listen to you and then they should ask if it is okay to call your parents. They have to have your permission to do that. They can say that they are concern for you and that some of their problems might be having an effect on you at school. The GOOD high school counselor will give them phone numbers locally for Community Mental Health or counseling services for them.

Understand that counseling does not always work and that they may end up getting divorced, but in the long run you will be less likely to continue to hear all the fighting.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

Call your local United Way to find assistance(mainly free counseling for the teen, but there are also support groups). If the teen turns 16, the teen can file for an emancipation in order to finish high school(check with your local law school). Good Luck

Answer 4

I think the major point to remember is that their conflict has nothing to do with you. Find someone to confide in- whether that's a coach, counselor, teacher or a friend. Try to focus on what's good in your life and what you want to accomplish. I'm sorry that your parents aren't mature enough to shield you from their anger, but perhaps you can learn something positive from this. Perhaps you can learn how to negotiate and settle conflicts peacefully and will grow up to be a diplomat, arbitrator, or a lawyer. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

It sounds like this teen needs to get out of the house and live with other family members or a good friends family until his parents decide what their going to do about their problems. This isnt good for this teen to see this kind of behavior especially from the two that he needs to be there for him and help him throughout his/her difficult teenage years. I hope things get better for this teen but if not I hope he/she gets help if things get worse.

Answer 6

The first thing you need to know is that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. It's your parents problem, they are doing it and you are not the cause. The second thing is to realize that your world will likely change but you'll be OK and survive. Your parents undoubtedly love you but they may be pretty preoccupied with their struggles. Talk to a counselor at school if you can.

Answer 7

First of all, you shouldn't have to deal with it. I think I would approach one or both of the parents when things are relatively calm and let them know how it is impacting you.

Keep the conversation quiet, calm, and what ever you do don't lose control of your emotions.

Answer 8

the teen can look forward to the divorce so there will be no more fighting. also he can always remember that both his parents will always love him no matter what their issues are.

Answer 9

Their is really nothing you can do, until you are of legal age to leave home. My dad was an abusive husband and father and when my dad would hit our mom, us kids would just hide out in a closet ! As soon as us kids were of age to leave home, we did. Good Luck to you, I have been were you are, and it is pure hell !

Answer 10

First, don't take it personally...it has nothing to do with you. Second, realize some people say/do things they don't mean when they are angry....especially in a passionate relationship like marriage. Maybe you should tell them, when all is calm, how it upsets you.