He is 46 years old and his wife is 25 years old. They just got married two years ago, but the live together first for two years before they got married. He was single all his life (old bachelor) until he married to my friend 2 years ago.
She is a very lovely young lady, a good wife and a good mother of their three young children together. They kids ages, the eldest boy is 4 years old, the next one is 12 months old , the youngest is 2 moths old baby girl.
She has to get up at 4am to iron his golf shirt and also shine his shoes. She cook breakfast for him before he goes to work. She even has to cut his finger nails and toe nails.
Now why he yell at her anytime he wants and cuss her out even in public or infront of his friends. One time he forgot his Ipod he got upset and blame it on my friend (his wife). I just wonder if somethign wrong with him. When she had her baby girl he brought the baby to the recovery room and left him there. He shouldn't do it coz she just have her baby
2006-10-25 13:51:17 · 18 answers · asked by rauma_raumamary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO!!!! He doesn't love her or respect her. I have a older husband hes 43 and I'm 23 and he would never treat me that way. yeah we argue but who doesn't. theres a big difference between Love and Control. He's defiantly controlling her. She probably doesn't like it but its so hard to leave someone like that. I think it is your business and she needs you. Your a good friend and I think you need to support her and be there for her because shes going to need a friend when the crap hits the fan. Good Luck to your Friend I hope she leaves him and takes him for every thing he has.
2006-10-25 15:10:19 · answer #1 · answered by danlynnhunterkaleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not sound like he respects, loves, or cares for her. And with 3 young children there is really not much of a life for her. Maybe you can talk to her and support her morally, but that is pretty much all you can do at this point. She has to want to change her situation first, before anything can be done...
2006-10-25 14:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer, probably not, BUT, it's their relationship and she is an adult who has to make up her own mind about what she wants or does not want in a relationship. Perhaps she is willing to put up with such behaviour in exchange for some things YOU don't see? Be respectful of her marriage, as her friend you need to support the decision she made.
2006-10-25 13:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Texanborn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How dare he treated your friend like that!!!
i really need ..... (She is a very lovely young lady, a good wife and a good mother) to take care my 2 son (5 & 2) but i'll love her with all my heart and take good care of her. Plus if she's want, i can accept her baby as my baby and we can enjoying a happy family together. i'm just 35 and have stable income.
2006-10-25 14:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by peter71 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your question is, does this man love, care, and respect his wife. He may love her on some level, but care and respect her, NO. She married a man far and away too old for her and having children in such a young relationship is a hardship he doesn't seem to handle well... I feel for your friend, but her life will not change.
2006-10-25 13:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by loriiskind 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
something is definitely wrong with him he is a pig! your friend is she american? this really doesn't sound like behavior most any american woman would accept
at 46 he should have a fairly stable income and ability to support her if she were to dump his *** because he has no respect for her and if you have no respect you have no love
now wonder the bastard was single all his life
2006-10-25 14:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She need to leave the old senile bat,and find someone that really loves her and the kids and have a life with some fun in her life that she deserves and have respect towards her by him.
2006-10-25 13:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is a matter between them ... if she isn't happy she'll need to find the strength to leave him ... but she is very young ... sounds like he wanted a mom more than a wife ... so unless she complains I wouldn't get involved but be there for her if she needs a friend.
2006-10-25 13:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by emnari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder how the wife can manage all this without being mad herself.
NO, the man treat her as a slave (which might be right/"normal" in his custom/culture?), but definetely not in a western society.
2006-10-25 14:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by Peter_F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a sociopath. He mistreats her because he doesn't respect her. She needs to "grow a backbone" and go to counseling to work on her self-esteem. Then, she can go to a battered woman's shelter to find out about emotional/psychological and verbal abuse. What he did to that baby sounds criminal. You need to help her realize that he's a batterer...
2006-10-25 13:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋