What would be the reason someone would not delete a text message they received from their lover if they had a wife also? The text was not incredibly romantic but sweet in nature. In addition, would they be mad at the one who sent them this text if the wife found out about it?
2006-10-25 13:49:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been in this situation before...very recently in fact. My 'boyfriend' was recieving texts from other females, some were sexually suggestive others just regular old 'I want to see you texts' and some where what you'd call just sweet in nature. The reason why a guy doesn't delete text messages like that from his phone is I think for more or less an ego stroke. They just like hearing other women that they may not date or like, say things like that to them. I know my ex kept his in his phone for that reason. I guess the fact of knowing someone is thinking about you. Unless you have reason to distrust your mate, I'd say just ask and get and answer and then, if it satisfies you, leave it alone. Worrying about it isn't going to do anything but make matters worse sometimes. I wouldn't get mad too much unless it was stuff like what was being sent to my ex, about sex and things. Suspicion is never good for a relationship. As long as your partner 'knows where home is', be secure in the relationship and in him. As long as the trust between you too is still there, it's okay.
2006-10-25 13:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They might have had a moment of nostalgia and wanter to keep it, just to know they're loved. Else sometimes the text messenger just logs everything, could be he didn't know it was doing that.
They SHOULDN'T be mad at that person unless they were being indiscreet or careless(like sending texts when they weren't sure it was them on the other end). Usually when they get caught they feel pretty damn gulty about it and disassociate themselves from 'the other woman' becasue she (through no real fault of her own) is a source of that guilt.
2006-10-25 13:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called a trophy. My brother who was married carried around a love letter in his billfold until his wife found it. His excuse was he left his wallet in his car and this girl must have stuck it in there. Like he is in the habit of leaving is wallet in his car at night unlocked. Riiiiiiight. His gullible wife bought it too. Don't you be the same. My bro is a womanizer. They are all the same. The old adage, if it barks like a dog ..... Sorry to put it this way. I know how horrible you must feel. My wife was the one who gave my bro the love letter. I will always be able to zero in on a womanizer.
2006-10-25 14:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the person who sent the text knows the situation, and should feel guilty.
I wonder if the lover ever thinks about how the married couple was on their wedding night? How they both said they'd love each other until death?
Selfish?
2006-10-25 13:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Timmy B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Why not delete?
maybe he got a phone call that interrupted the usual habit of deleting? maybe a freudian slip? a majority of cheaters get caught because they want to, or when they get comfortable
2. Anger at lover or wife?
they will get mad at the wife over the lover because they have to maintain their innocence about the lover - she probably got yelled at as well just not in front of you - obviously
2006-10-25 15:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by camideville 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmn is the company of this guy that important that you would play games like this?...if you are not romantically involve with this man wouldnt you just pick up the phone and call him if it was just "business?" I see that two people want to play text tag games here grl...If i was the wife, I would want to know who is texting my husband...If the business was straight laced like you said ...call up and say hey may i speak to so and so and this is so and so and its all gravy....but if you want to sneak around the text message charade would draw up something fishy...you really dont want to mess with married friends...you could be the reason for the rift in their relationship...and do you want to be the cause of it ?? Think about it ....
2006-10-25 13:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they would be mad at the person sending the text, if the wife found out about it. What are you doing with a married man? I swear, this makes me really mad, I hate people involving with married people, then they come on here and vant saying how their boyfriend or girlfriend aren't talking to them because of the wife or husband, well duh! you shouldn't be involving with married people in the first place!
2006-10-25 13:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your first question makes sense...they dont want to delete it because they want to read it over and over and over again because it gives them a nice feeling inside....the second questions, im not so sure what you mean. if the wife found out about it, they shouldnt be mad at the person that sent it, rather the wife as she was either prying or just doing her wifey thing.
2006-10-25 13:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yal , are you saying you sent some married man a text? he should be mad at you! if you are married an got a text an your hubby found out , You should be mad. that is why we leave married people alone.......could be a few reason's it wasn't deleted.
2006-10-25 13:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow octwerd situation.be mad to a certain exsent but let it go in a way. Play it off like it never happened then if it happens to pop up again then take action and do something.
2006-10-25 13:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋