How To Forgive Wife? After Breaking My Heart .?

Question

How To Forgive wife after she has hurt me more in one month,
Than in five years, what to say when she is hurting to ,how to make up I just don't know where to begin she has hurt me deeply but i want to forgive i want to make everything ok again .. how ?

Answer 1

I know how you feel. Open communication. Heart to heart. Don't bring up the past and know that now matters. You both must promise to start over and never make the same mistakes. Burn the bridges and move forward together. Don't look back. Have Faith.

Answer 2

Well we all make mistakes and we all hurt. It is up to us weather or not we forgive and forget. Talk to her and see if you both can get over this and you could take the advise from the other people who answered this and get counseling or even just move on. Time heals it takes a while and sometimes the past comes up and bites you in the a** again and again. There is no real answer for you ..sorry. Each situation is different as is each person what one of us may have done another one would never do and so on. The best I can say is talk it through ....
~Good luck~

Answer 3

Forgiveness comes when you look at how you contributed to a situation rather than look at what she did. When we look at our own behavior to evaluate what happened, we often realize our own faults and how we actually supported rather than prevented a situation from happening. I suggest you do that in writing, totally objective, without justifying why you did it. Then, when you are finished, take your new insight and ask your wife to set aside some time for an honest talk. I am convinced that once you get to the talk, the situation will be a lot easier for you to bear, because you got a different understanding.

Even in the worst scenario(cheating), if we look at how we contributed to the other getting to that point, we are willing to take some responsibility and willing to accept our own faults, making it a lot easier to forgive the other and to rebuild the relationship....try it, and good luck

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear of the pain and emotional turmoil you are going through. You sound like a wonderful man and a great father. There are no words to describe the pain of being cheated on. It is like a knife that sears into your heart over and over. I feel your pain. I am glad you came here on Yahoo Answers. My only advice is that you have to be strong for your sons' sake. If you continue letting that woman play with your emotions then you are going to come to a breaking point. I myself was in a relationship like that and it just eats away at you and your self-wort until you are a empty, wounded shell. So please guard your heart carefully. This woman can destroy you emotionally. You will come to hate yourself and feel like nothing. Let her go while you are still ahead. Try dating another woman. Even if you do not feel a deep love for her, stick with her anyway. In time you will heal from your old wounds and develop a deep love for the new woman. It takes time to build the kind of love you had for your wife. You need to be determined to fall out of love with your wife. Just tell yourself "I will not allow myself to be hurt like this again." You have to be strong and deliberate in your actions If you keep seeing your wife then one day your emotions will get out of control. You might get angry with her and kill her by mistake. It has happened many times before. I am not exaggerating, just telling you what can happen if you do not walk away from a poisonous relationship. Another possibility is that you can end up having a complete nervous breakdown. It happened to me. I am not a self-pitying weakling. I have always thought of myself as a tough go-getter but if you stay in a bad relationship long enough, then it can happen to you. I took a year off work after my breakdown. Please be strong. You are such a wonderful caring person from the sound of your post. Do not let your wife control your emotions. Get a divorce and marry another woman. Set strict boundaries for your wife and do not allow her to cross them. You deserve more from life. Stay away from her negative influence. I wish you well, good luck.

Answer 5

I'm wondering if she did this to you intentionally. Sometimes when people decide to move on in their life they are not adult enough to be up front and honest so they purposely pick fights or say or do hurtful things in hopes of the other not wanting to be with the individual any longer. If that's the case then in their shallow mind they did nothing wrong and you were the one who left or couldn't take it. Please be careful this is not a set up for her to get out of the marriage.

Answer 6

I guess you both need to talk things over, and see what each of you want. We can't tell you had to fix the problem or how to build the trust back. What we can tell you is that if the two of you are in love with each other, then there is no obstacle you can not overcome. It will take time and understanding but it can be achieved.

Answer 7

well it depends on what she did to you to hurt you so badly ... you need to first get past it and see if you can forgive what she did ... being that you want to work out it out says a lot but will she do it again? can you trust her? there may be some deep issues here that may need to be worked out with a counselor ... good luck

Answer 8

http://cheatingsigns.blogspot.com

read the article titled "12 Steps To Rebuilding Trust In a Relationship"

That should help.

Best of Luck,
Drew Bryant
http://cheatingsigns.blogspot.com

Answer 9

What did your wife do that was so hurtful? You'll have to include that information before anyone can actually give you the advice you may need to start fresh.

Answer 10

If whatever she did is that bad and you both want the marriage to work....seek counseling.