To forgive does not imply—dating the cheating lover or confiding in the dishonest friend—but redefining the relationship to sustain the good parts.
2006-10-25 13:45:54 · 8 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Anger can be a good thing, it helps people to get the determination needed to fight against injustice.
But it takes wisdom to know when to let go of the anger, and it takes practice to be able to surrender that anger when you know it is not constructive.
2006-10-25 13:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Rambo Smurf 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is an action that you choose to do. It means you are not going to hold the person hostage emotionally for their actions or whatever it was you are forgiving. In the Bible it says to forgive and we are required to do so if we are one of the faithful. But, it also says to not throw your pearls before swine. To me that means I choose to forgive. But It doesn't mean I have to forget. I would forgive with the knowledge that the person would not act in the same way again. If they do then I have another decision to make. Do I forgive again? Is it forgiveable or is it something that makes me feel so bad and hurts me so much that I am allowing my pearls which is, the best of me , to be thrown before swine? By someone who does not respect me enough to stop? It is complicated. We all have the capacity to forgive but some can forgive more than others. It's individual and it is personal. It is also a very loving act and the most difficult act one person can do for another.
2006-10-25 14:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, forgiveness is just that: forgiveness.
First of all, if I am not able to forgive I am not going to be happy. The person I resent is happy--he/she does not care if I forgive. I am unhappy because I cannot forgive....so forgiveness makes happy. It is not so that it is easy to forgive, but why dwell on what has already happened? If I have a cheater as a man and I stay, then I allow that to happen to me---therefore, it is my decision not his. His decision is only to cheat. My decision to stay with him and do nothing is what makes for me allowing this to happen to me---therefore, I forgive---and either leave or give him the details on how I feel and try to find out why he cheated rather than just doing nothing. No matter what. Forgiveness is not redefining--forgiveness means that we start out with a clean slate....or seperate and move on with our lives.........
2006-10-25 13:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once it has been ingrained in the core of your being that you, yourself, are also guilty of causing offenses to others and probably does not even deserve to be forgiven, but received forgiveness, THEN and ONLY THEN you will find that forgiving someone may not be the easiest BUT THE RIGHT THING you can do...
2006-10-26 00:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by Alias G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is for YOUR soul and well being. Not for them. It is healthy to be forgiving
2006-10-25 13:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Honeypai 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its called unconditional love for your fellow being... ok, thats malarcky.. i figure that if no ones bleeding, dying, or dead, then let it go. i would rather get along than have bad feeling, then it brings me down. anyway, it always feels good to do it... and sometimes a little powerful...
2006-10-25 13:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by puertoricanhusker85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess that is how their brain works....everyone is different
2006-10-25 13:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by a person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cos they have good hearts!!
2006-10-25 14:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by ~~FrEaK~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋