Let wife sleep on floor? :/?

Question

Ok so my wife wanted some space, wanted to leave with the kids etc, I convinced her to stay for now but she wanted to move out of the room. She wants to sleep on the floor in the childrens room. She has been pretty adamant about being independent but I have major issues with her sleeping on the floor.

Do I push the subject? What's the winning strategy? Is she testing to see if I'll actually let her sleep on the floor or is she seeing if I'm going to keep bossing her around? argh

Ok to clarify, of course I already offered 5 times to give her the bed. She has moved her clothes out now also.

I'm not ignoring it, I just don't know if I should keep pushing it and pushing it or just let it go.

Maybe I will sleep on the floor too?? :)

Answer 1

wow good luck dude....women are difficult like that everything has two meanings......try to approch this carefully or youll ruin things even more....try to convince her to sleep on a couch or that youll do it dnno whatever u decide

Answer 2

Hasn't it crossed your mind that by sleeping on the floor of your childrens room, your wife has picked the only spot in the house that she knows you can't try to have sex with her. And being bossy is a good way to show your wife you have no respect for her and a good reason for her to be heading for the kids room. Your wife is your partner and companion, not someone to be bossed around. If you don't get it that marriage is an equal partnership you won't have to worry about where she sleeps, she may not be there much longer.

Answer 3

If she telling you she wants space and wants to leave try to get her to attend counseling with you ASAP. There is obviously something going on - there are problems that you may not be aware of - with her, with you, with both of you. She may feel overwhelmed, stressed, betrayed . . . you will never know until you can get her to discuss it. A professional third party is probably the best place to start.
This has nothing to do with her sleeping on the floor - it goes much deeper than that. Sometimes spouses are so caught up in their external lives (often work, finances, etc.) that they fail to see when their partner is in distress. This may be something that has been building up and she's upset that you are oblivious.
Try to talk to her in a non-threatening, unaccusing, way - preferably away from the children. Get a sitter and take her out to dinner.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Nip it in the bud - be honest and clear. maybe say "Look I understand that you want independence... but I still care about you even though we are going through some tough times. I don't feel good about you sleeping on the floor. Maybe we can get an inflatable matress (like an aerobed), if you insist on staying in the childrens room".
Something else to consider is ... How are the children reacting to this change? How are you communicating w/ them about this?
AND Are you sure you are "not ok" w/ her on the floor because you'd really rather she still sleep w/ you?
Think about it. Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

I feel your wife is being unfair towards both you and your children. When she goes and sleeps on the children's floor she is announcing to them something is wrong. This is very dysfunctional for the children. No child should be involved in an argument between the parents. I am assuming you have a living room and a couch. What is wrong with her sleeping on the couch if she needs to get a point across to you. She is getting the children involved and using them against you. This is seriously wrong. I think you need to discuss this with your wife and ask her not to play games with your head. You are both mature adults and she should act her age. It is normal for a husband and wife to have arguments, but it is not normal to involve children.

Answer 6

I would not make my wife sleep on the floor. I would get out of the bed and I would sleep on the floor before I let my wife or kids sleep on the floor.
I have always been a provider, but that does not make me a perfect husband or father.

Answer 7

It sounds to me like she just needs time to work things out on her own.Buy her a cot or an air mattress. Don't keep pushing her or she will take the kids and leave. Try to workout whatever issue that's bothering her, without crowding her. Be patient she will probably work things out. If she didn't still have feelings for your marriage, she would have already left.

Answer 8

She is acting like a child by throwing a temper tantrum. Don't give in to her. If she wants to be stupid, let her be stupid. Floors aren't real comfy after a while. She'll come around eventually. If she wanted independence, then why the hell did she get married and have kids. That makes no sense. So, are you getting the whole temper tantrum thing here?? Let her throw her fit. Leave her alone with it and she'll get tired after a while. Good luck to you!

Answer 9

Sounds like she's got some emotional issues and just wants some attention. Offer her the couch, explaining that you'd rather she not sleep on the floor.

Answer 10

One thing you don't want to do is show the children you are having problems. You need to sleep on the couch and let the mom sleep on the bed. Yeah the kids might see but sleeping on their bedroom floor is just like saying "hey kids, me and daddy are having problems". Kids worry also

Answer 11

Let her sleep on the floor. Don't try and stop her. She is being stubborn...so don't play her game...simply say "OK". Ask her how she slept, and if she gives you a remark like "I slept great" then simply say "good". She has taken it upon herself to sleep on the floor, it's not a reflection of you in any way.