2006-10-25 13:33:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I fully agree with 'painful to talk about,' but -- I should've added more detail earlier; apologies. I also note that it's common.
It seems to me that if I mention it, the odds are absurdly good that the person I'm mentioning it to will have direct or second-hand experience with miscarriage themselves.
Meaning that there are an awful lot of people grieving alone over a very widely experienced pain.
That said, I also concur with the observation that many people simply don't know what to say; it'll definitely bring an awkward pause with some people.
So...
2006-10-25 13:53:38 · update #1
i agree, it is sooo painfull to recall that type of thing. now back in the day when womens purpose was to bear children and cook dinner, a woman was looked at as damaged goods if she could not successfully carry a child to term. so there is a sick (yet typically) american history to this hush hushness.....
2006-10-25 13:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Aum 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Abortion or miscarriage may be spontaneous or induced. When it is induced, meaning the parents did something to get rid of the baby. It is what we call "unwanted pregnancy."
However, when the parents wants the baby so much. No matter what they do , sometimes it goes spontaneously.
Definitely, it is a great loss ! It is more painful to have miscarriage especially if the parents wanted the baby! Sometimes the mother should undergo psychiatric counselling not because she is insane but because in majority of the cases, they felt to blame. Somehow, no matter how they cared for it, sometimes, they always feel guilty! Dont feel guilty! God has plans for you! It might not be the proper timing yet! He just gives you trial to make you stronger. Be strong!
Sometimes people think, it is something that might make you sad. Instead they just keep silent or rather not talk about it. Though some people also pray for the immediate recovery of their loved ones. It is not always talked about. It is just regarded as an ordinary thing which just passed by.
2006-10-25 21:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that a lot of people keep it bottled up inside, when the person right next to them could have experienced one themselves and be of support. Everyone was aware of my miscarriage, and I received SOOOO much support from friends and strangers who i didn't realize had miscarriages. I felt much much better talking about it and learned a lot. I have a strong faith in God, and am comfortable talking about it because I know that He had a different plan at the time and it is nothing that I did wrong.
2006-10-25 21:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by anemo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Miscarriage is so often kept a secret because to a lot of people their pain is very personal and private and they want to deal with it within a tight circle of family. It varies with the individual. Some people like their pain very public so that others may help them in their grieving process, but like I said, it is the individual.
2006-10-25 20:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, it's hard to talk about. I had one last year on the 4th of July. It was horrible running out of a party to have my hubby drive me to the ER. Nobody at the party even knew I was pregnant (I was at 8 weeks). We didn't talk about it after that, but I believe my mil told everybody what had happened.
Nobody has brought it up since. That's just the way it is.
2006-10-25 20:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many women are upset by losing a child that they don't want to mention it and recall all the memories and how they felt going through the terrible time in their lives. It's always hard to lose a baby... no one wants to talk about that.
2006-10-25 20:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by brittypxo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's heartbreaking to have a miscarriage and from my experience no one else wants to talk about it as they don't know what to say and can't wait for a change in the conversation. It's just sad
2006-10-25 20:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by cino_bean 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
About 1 in 5 pregnancies end in miscarriage. So it is fairly common, but really who wants to talk about such a horrible thing? My wife had one several years ago, and I still feel bad about it, never mind how bad she must feel. So we bury it with all the other bad memories...
2006-10-25 20:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by barter256 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that we kept both of our miscarriages quiet for awhile, cause it's not something we wanted to talk about. Alot of people who have children & who have never went through a miscarriage don't know what to say or how to react & it's better to just keep it quiet.
2006-10-25 20:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Karla S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't that it is necessarily a secret but to the woman it can be a very painful subject to deal with so it just isn't talked about.
2006-10-25 20:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋