My daughter is marrying a guy 10yrs younger that she,my husband is not the least bit concerned, i find myself obsessing about this. is this too much of an age diff, she is 35 he is 25.
2006-10-25 13:18:07 · 21 answers · asked by glasgow girl 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my daughter lives in Europe, i have not met the guy,I will when I give the wedding in May, I feel a lot better with most of your answer's. thks.
2006-10-25 13:41:58 · update #1
Mom, you raised her, she is an adult and making decisions based on how you raised her. give her the benefit of doubt with this and be supportive.
You were there when she was born, took her first steps, went to school, the prom, and everything in between. Let her live her life and if it fails, be there for her. Not with " I told you so", but with the same love you showed her for 35 years of life.
Sometimes its hard to let them go on their own, we want to give advice all the time. I too am a parent and well, still try to offer my suggestions, but, they are grown now and its up to them.
2006-10-25 13:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by bigmikejones 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's much to be concerned about. I would be more concerned if the age gap was the other way around. She's thirty-five, so is most definitely an adult. I'm sure she has thought this through. The one thing I would recommend is a pre-nuptial agreement. You haven't given too many details, but I assume your daughter is financially independant, so should look after her interests.
2006-10-25 13:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by Amy D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think the age is really that big of a deal if they love each other and have similar goals and stuff. They could be the same age and be totally different with what they want from life so as long as they make each other happy and respect each other then i think its good that they've found what a lot of people never find.
2006-10-25 13:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by zimba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your concern. My partner is five years younger than me - I have a five year old daughter from a previous marriage. I'm 30. At times there are HUGE variances in the way we look at things, his maturity level, our outlook on life, but it does work. We've been together for two years now. I think in your case, they are obviously in love, enough to want to get married - trust your daughter. And try not to pre-empt disaster! That will only make you worry.
2006-10-25 13:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by iliketorideigohago 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those facts alone give one pause, but nothing with which to form an opinion.
What's your daughter like? What's her fiance like?
Whatever, you and your 35-year old daughter will be in the best way if you show her your full support, come what may.
2006-10-25 13:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ecks 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nO UR NOT OVERLY CONCERNED THAT IS UR JOB ITS UR NATURE SHOWS UR A GOOD LOVING CARING MOM. she is 35 so she must know what shes doing if it doesnt work out then she will learn from her mistake and thats all part of llife. u r probably focusing on the fact that guy is 25, not that hes 10 years younger, with him being 25 u r afraid he will hurt ur daughter and cheat and things along that line.its all understandabel
2006-10-25 13:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lexis 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think its perfectly fine that your worried....your probably worried that there at two completely different maturity levels.....and that the marriage might not work out. Although its pretty hard to talk to someone in love. Umm although you have your concerns tell your daughter about them...just make sure you let her know that you support her in her decision, but that your just worried
2006-10-25 13:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to see this through your daughter's eyes. If she is truly happy with this guy, then you need to accept him. You are obviously looking for excuses not to accept her getting married. His age is the least of your real concerns. Maybe losing your daughter is somewhere high on the list.
2006-10-25 13:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It wont make a difference when she is 45 and he is 35.
If i were you i would just let it be....my sis in law was 28 and her husband had just turned 18 and he really stepped up became a responsible person.
2006-10-25 13:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, what do you think of the guy, as a person and husband without any of the age thing, . is he loving, responsable, dependable, you know, all the things you want for your daughter. if age is all you got to complain about, then smile and be glad thats all you have to worry about...
2006-10-25 13:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by puertoricanhusker85 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋