My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. After wards he told me he still loved me and care but couldn't be with me. I told him to stop saying those things because we weren't together and he did. Now I miss him saying those things and I try to talk to him about it but he just brushes me off. He tells me I'm annoying and we argue about stupid things. I still love him and care and I know he does too but we're just both too stubborn. He tells his friends he still cares about me and he gets upset when I talk to other guys. How do I get to his soft side....how do I fix things between us. Should I just stop talking to him altogether?
If you've ever loved someone enough and have been let down you know how it feels.
2006-10-25 13:15:16 · 9 answers · asked by Liz. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You didn't say why you broke up. It sounds as if he wants his freedom but wants you to stay home and pine away for him. Don't do it. Move on with your life and your dating life in particular.
2006-10-25 13:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There quite a few friends I have that I love dearly but could never live with, some of this from experience.
You can actually be friends, but both of you have to quit being bitter AND not be upset if the other is seeing someone else. Just know that you love him and want him to be happy, even if its not with you.
If you can adopt this mindset, he'll eventually come around. YOU have to get there first before trying to interact with him.
When you're ready, next time you and a few friends plan an outing, invite him along. If he says no, thats OK, you can invite him (and his girlfriend, if he has one) next time.
2006-10-25 20:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Roadpizza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been through something like that, I just stayed away from him for a while and we both hated each other, but he hated me more than I hate him, because after I broke up with him I started to like him again but didn't say or do any thing to him. I just talk to one of my friends about it and she helped a lot. Maybe you need to talk to a close friend or talk to this guy a lone and try your hardest to stay calm or call him and talk to him that way or e-mail him or do all three and see which one works.
Hope I was able to help. Fell getter soon.
2006-10-25 20:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Panic! lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you and feel your pain. For now let him go and stop talking about him to every one. Doing this will get his attention and he will start wondering what your doing, what your thinking and if you care? Try to start being happy and happiness will come your way. He really likes your attention and when you stop giving it to him he will give it to you. I hope I make some kind of sense here ..I know I am rambling but I tell it as I feel it or see it if you can get my drift.He will miss you when you stop, you are always the one doing, let him do for a change and let it get to him that you don't really need him to be happy.
~Good luck~
2006-10-25 20:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, we all know how it feels. It feels terrible. sometimes it is better to just let it be silent between you for a while so you can both sort out your feelings and maybe talk about it later.
2006-10-25 20:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were u I stop talking2 him but if your love is something like praying! call him at this moment and tell him I fuckingZz love u bitchZz, why u dont want2 understand!
2006-10-25 20:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him do his own thing if its meant to be he will come back
2006-10-25 20:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stop talking to him
2006-10-25 20:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurt but you move on
2006-10-25 20:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋