OK IM A VIRGIN IM 14 TURNIN 15 SOON I MET DIS NICE COOL DUDE DAT I LIKE SOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH HE JUST TURNED 16 WE DONT GO OUT BUT WE ACT LIKE WE DO, WE STARTED KISSIN NEXT THING I KNO WERE BOTH NAKED N HE TOUCHIN ON ME N I THINK IM READY 2 TAKE DAT NEXT BIG STEP THIS IS NOT MY FIRST TIME DOIN SUMTHING LIKE DAT I HAVE HAD ORAL SEX DONE ON ME, BUT WAT DO U THINK I SHOULD DO? HOW OLD WERE U WHEN U FIRST HAD SEX OR ARE U STILL A VIRGIN? FOR THOSE WHO HAVE SEX DID IT HURT??
2006-10-25 13:06:42 · 43 answers · asked by newbeginnings =] 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you'll be happier if you wait until you're in love. i lost my viginity to a dude i hardly knew @ 17. i'm 19 now and in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend. we live 2getha and i love him sooo much. i really wish i had waited for him to be my first. if you do this you're gonna regret it trust me! he's not even you're boyfriend so most likely he's just waiting for you to give it up. if he was interested in you like that he would have made you his girlfriend. and yes it does hurt but that pain is mostly due to the fact that inexperienced teens don't know what they are doing. young men don't know how to stimulate a woman with foreplay nor when to put it in. it's usually a clumsy engagement at your age. just wait until you're in a REAL relationship!
2006-10-26 11:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first just because he is a cool dude and you like him sooo much doesn't mean you have sex with him sex isn't something you take lightly you want it to be the right person and at the right time. I am 14 I will be 15 in march I think you are too young seeing as I am too young you do not sound like you love him you sound like your lusting after him and from what I hear it normaly hurts your first time and if your asking if you should or not your not ready you clearly don't think your ready by asking but I'm not you I can't tell you not to have sex I can only advice that you don't and if you do to play it smart and use condoms and if I was you I'd also get on the pill now I know some pepole say wait till marrige or sex is only for adluts one the adlut one is a lie I've heard of kids having babies at 10 and well I think ya should wait till your in love truley and dear your just lusting after him if you decide to do this I hope you know what your getting into there is always a chance at getting pregnant std hiv ect unlis you are ready to go head and take that chance on any of those then I'd keep my legs closed for a while wish you the best and I hope you make the right choce.
~Shadow~
2006-10-25 20:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're too young. You'll regret it. I regret it. I wasn't ready for sex when I lost my virginity, and now, at 19, I'm still not ready for sex, and it took me 6 partners to figure that out.
You should at least be dating exclusively.
It will hurt. Sometimes it won't just hurt the first time, but for several times after, too, because teenage guys are too inexperienced to know when they should put it in - and they don't do enough foreplay to get the girl ready, and it hurts when they don't.
But honestly, don't do it. It's a choice you'll regret for the rest of your life. Give your virginity to someone you love, not someone who just turns you on. There will be lots of guys who turn you on, but a very few number that you actually love, and you deserve to be with someone you love that loves you for your first time.
Good luck, don't do anything stupid. If you do have sex, use a condom, maybe some spermicidal lube of some sort. Talk to your mom about getting on the Pill (if she freaks, say it's because you want to regulate your period, or use cramps as an excuse if they're bad enough - my sister has the kind of cramps where she sometimes vomits from the pain, so she's on the Pill when she and her husband aren't trying to have kids).
You're going to do what you want to do no matter what I say or what anyone else on here says, but please, if you have sex, try to avoid STDs and pregnancy. They can ruin your life.
2006-10-26 02:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do it, 15 is way too young to be having sex. How long have you known him? What if you get a STD? Did you know that you can also get/pass an STD from getting/performing oral sex? What if you become pregnant? Are you ready to become a mother at 15? Will he be there for you and the baby? Are your parents ready to become grandparents? Can you support yourself on your own? Will you be able to finish school? What if he just wants to take your virginity and then go tell his friends about it. Are you ready for all the guys at your school thinking you are easy? You should definitely wait to have sex until you at least finish school (better yet, married), out of your parents house, have a job, and able to support yourself if something goes wrong. But most of all, you should wait for your own self respect.
2006-10-25 20:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by Zodiac_Child 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the sad thing about your situation is that you will do what you want to do even after you read all of these answers. i would tell any girl at any age not to have sex until they are married, i thought i would be the same way. i'm 17 and i just lost mine. its easy to say that you wont do it, but its another story when he's right there with you. i don't know what to say except don't do it honey. it is honestly nothing that you can't wait for because most females could do a better job of having sex with their own hand than with a guys p3nis. masterbate or something, but don't give your virginity away to a guy who will toss you away like trash afterwards. anyone who says to go by your heart is not very wise, the heart is a very dangerous thing to follow, and the heart does not have a mind.
2006-10-25 20:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by jitwitit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity your age. Im 15 now for some guys their first time hurts because the skin goes back a lot of girls dont know that. Well if you done oral sex then you ready just give it 2 more weeks ok?
2006-10-25 14:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't even use proper grammar and you think you are ready to have sex??? Take a step back and look at this situation! Find anything wrong yet??? Wait until you are married to have sex, and even then, consider what might happen before you do. There is no way you are even ready to be dating. Focus on school, especially Language Arts!
2006-10-25 13:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by t g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok,hun first off,i must make something very clear:Whoever told you oral sex wasnt sex,was full of ignorance.Oral sex,is sex.Now,that is cleared up,never do anything you are not sure you are ready for.No one,can tell you what to do or if you are ready,or what they would do.Ultimately,you have to make the decision whether or not to have intercourse with this teenage boy or not.As,you have to be the one to make your decision,i must say,be responsible.Make sure to speak to him about his previous partners,and you speak to him about yours.Make sure you have proper protection.If you are considering this,you must go and speak to your obgyn or find one in your area,and speak to them about possibly placing you on birth control.Remember that birth control isnt 100% effective and it also doesnt prevent the contraction of std's so please be careful and have another form of protection available.Even then,you have a chance of getting pregnant.Anytime you engage in sexual activities you are putting yourself at a risk of pregnancy or std.Not only the physical risks and consequences but the emotional ones as well.Also,remember that there is no protection that is 100% except abstinence,so please consider that.You are only a teen once,and i wouldnt waste that time trying to be an adult.There will be plenty of time for doing adult things,once your an adult,until then enjoy the fact you dont have to worry about adult things!!Good luck hun,and be careful.
2006-10-26 16:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now i 17 but i lost my virginity around the same age as you are now. really the only reson y i did it was because i wanted to fit in, i wwas convinced that if you were a virgin, you were a loser. i lost it to a guy i didnt really love and i didnt know too well. and believe e it wasnt that great and it hurt. immediatly after i regreted it. i now have a b/f now who i love very much and yes we have had sex(about after 2 years of dating), but i really and truly wish that i had waited, and have the first time w/ my b/f now. i really do love him and that is what sex is all about, love. u obviously dnt dont love him, u will regret it trust me. thats all i have to say. just wait. <3
2006-10-25 13:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by felicia fo sho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will bleed and hurt a lot. I was 28 when I had sex for the first time. It was on my wedding night. You are too young and you really don't know the guy. Please believe me! It is so worth the wait to wait until your wedding night. You don't have to worry about anything. And it is a wonderful and rare gift to give to your husband. Most men want to marry a virgin. You only loose it once. Think about it. Do you want to be a mom so young? Do you want to face your mom when you find out you are pregnant.
You have so much life in front of you. Don't do it! Save it for marriage.
2006-10-25 13:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋