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2006-10-25 13:05:28 · 11 answers · asked by Denise r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dump him. Like my grandfather used to say, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
2006-10-25 13:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by drammy22 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The marriage certificate is really only a piece of document entiteling you to benefits in case the partner dies. You can, nowadays set these things up legally(except Social Security)and so marriage is, to a lot of people obsolete.
If a woman goes into a relationship with the expectation of getting married, then this is one of the things that should be discussed. If a woman waits 15 years for that discussion then she waited a long time, but it still can be a subject for a discussion. However, if the partner balks because of the convenience of 15 years then I would evaluate if I loved him, if I saw love from him, if there were children and base my decision on those facts.
I feel compelled tho9ugh, to add to this, that my mother lived in a relationship without getting married until she died(33years)and she told me once that not being married made her work harder on maintaining a good relationship. So being in a relationship without getting married does not have to be a bad thing. It is the expectation that needs to be adressed. So go talk to him and find out why there is no marriage, without raising any arguments....Good Luck
2006-10-25 20:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's happy with the relationship with the way it is. I fail to see why anyone who's been with someone for that long won't get married anyway. That's just silly to me. Then again, statistically, divorces are higher in couples who have lived together before marriage. So, umm. . .I don't really know. If it's that important for you to be married, maybe you should ask him to marry you instead of him asking you. And if it's really REALLY important, and he won't do it, then perhaps you should find someone else. But if your relationship is fine the way it is, and this is really the only issue that you have, then maybe it will be best to just accept what you have. You haven't said whether it's a bad relationship or not, so I am assuming that it's a good one. I knew that I wanted to be married, so I wouldn't date anyone who had other ideas. I guess I managed to get past this little bump.
2006-10-25 20:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending what state you are in, you are entitled to all the privileges and perils that would have come from being married that long. Common law marriages are nothing more than proof of time invested...
2006-10-25 20:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by thrag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she doesn't care to be married or she would have left 12 years ago. People do what works for them. Not marrying him- or any other man- was what she chose because that's what she wanted.
2006-10-25 20:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it and find out exactly what's in his head and then determine what you want for your life from there. you cannot make decisions without knowing what's in your own relationship. none of us will be able to tell what you have been through for the good 15 years!
2006-10-25 20:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should ask same question about you?
Look if you are Happy there is no problem and i thing you are happy coz if you are not why you are with him for 15 years?
first and allwayse ask you self and ask you heart am i happy?
good luck
2006-10-25 20:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being married makes no difference if u truly love the person my parents were together for 25 years and they got married it makes no difference !!!!!!
2006-10-25 20:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by judixsa050202 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you stayed for 15 years, why give up now?????
2006-10-25 20:08:16 · answer #9 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
at that stage of the game...does it really matter?
2006-10-25 20:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋