We live together and have been together almost two years. We do alot together but my feelings are hurt he wants to go out of town alone to visit his friends four hours away. Should I be hurt or am I just used to him being around all of the time.
2006-10-25 12:56:09 · 15 answers · asked by mtkarens@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no. you should let him spend some time with the guys and just talk to him when he gets back. he probably just wants some time away
2006-10-25 12:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by Hayden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all, a man needs time with his friends alone and without you. If you keep invading his time with his friends, he will pull away even more. You don't need to be with him 24/7. If he goes on vacation without you, so what!! You are overreacting and should be happy that you will have the place to yourself. Couples need time away from each other and need separate lives or else it won't last. My ex used to go to the club with his friends alone and I went out and did my thing alone. It keeps the relationship healthy and gives you a chance to miss him. Calm down, let him go.
2006-10-25 13:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by italiana2683 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be hurt too at first. But if your boyfriend has no history of doing you wrong, then I wouldn't be mad. It would just be a guy's-night or trip kinda thing. I wouldn't get mad until he gives you a reason to really be mad. He might feel uncomfortable having you there with all guys and no girls. You should feel kinda out of place too, cuz a couple days with all guys and no girls, gets old...and annoying. lol But just give him the chance unless he proves you wrong. I'm sure he's not doing it on purpose!
2006-10-25 13:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by valleygirl1828 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be mad, that's silly. Use this as an opportunity to do all of the things that you don't do (or don't do enough of) when he's around: shop, hang with your friends, eat at the places he hates, watch all of the chick flicks you can, make yourself the foods you love and he dislikes, etc. etc. Have some fun while he's away!
2006-10-25 13:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by Shibi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends if you trust him. Everyone needs their own time. Time away may be a good thing. But i would ask him why you can't go? and see what his answer to that is. Sometime's if you act like you dont care he will wonder what your going to do and want you to go. But if you act to needy it will make him feel like he may need a break now and again away from you.
2006-10-25 13:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by miarae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need your permission to go out of town for any reason. He obviously does not mind the rules of morals (otherwise he wouldn't have allowed you to move in) so obviously he doesn't respect you or your wishes. Sorry but you don't have a leg to stand on.
2006-10-25 13:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a clinger. The guy is trying to break away from you. You're smothering him. Get a life and let him have one, too.
2006-10-25 13:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys sometimes just need their boys' night out (or weekend trip, etc.). i wouldn't be upset because while he was out with his friends, i'd schedule something for me (spa day, movie with your friends, shopping, etc.) but if he comes back with lipstick on his collar, another woman's perfume all over him, etc. then you have the right to be upset. otherwise, let him party. just dont drink and drive.
2006-10-25 13:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Muted Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2yrs give him his space even if you are together every one needs their space you can't tell me you've never just wanted to leave for a few hours so don't take it so hard let him go.
2006-10-25 13:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by evil_robot_girr13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give him his freedom to do man things without you . You need to do certain things without him around also. Theres your time, his time and you'all's time. know when each should occur and find good balance.
2006-10-25 13:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Agnon L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋