Tell the wife if she asked you if it were true you were sleeping with her husband? If you would, why and if you would not, why? I'm just curious how many "other women" would actually tell the truth if asked.
2006-10-25 12:51:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am not the other woman. I think my husband has another woman and i asked her and she said, no , nothing happened. I'm just curious what the majority of women would do in this case.
2006-10-25 13:01:00 · update #1
The other woman is usually a coward among other things. If she cared about being truthful, honest, or forthright, she wouldn't be the OW. So, no most OW don't have the balls to be honest.
To answer your question, I wouldn't be in that position in the first place... so it's irrelevant.
If you are in that position, why are you sleeping with another woman's husband? If it's a meaningful relationship, could it not wait until he's got the guts to leave his wife and make things right with you?
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Sorry you have to go through that. My opinion stands about the OW.. what a coward. If they are involved, she should have the guts to be honest. They both should.
2006-10-25 12:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, I don't go around sleeping with married men. But I also know there are men out there that lies to a woman that they are interested in telling them that they don't have anybody.
When I first started seeing my ex husband, that is what he told me. I know when I found out he had a wife out there it should have been a red flag for me, but my marriage with him lasted 17 long years. I did end up getting a divorce from him, but not for cheating on me, but for the abuse that I was getting from him.
Now for the other part of your question, since I was the other woman so to speak, yes I did tell her that I was seeing him. But at the same time I was not sleeping with him as I had never been married before and didn't believe in sex before marriage.
If by some chance I was dating a man that was married and I didn't know he was and his wife asked me if I was having sex with him...I would tell her the truth and then leave him. I learned the hard way, as I was only 18 when that happened between my ex and I. I had no clue that he was married and had dated him for a good 6 months before I found out about her. I guess you could say that he lead a double life. Boy, some guys are good,(if you can call it that).
2006-10-25 20:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as my husband was not involved 4 Sure I would tell the truth. If the wife of the man I was seeing behind her back asked me of course I would tell her. I would tell her the whole truth and nothing but the truth. She should have the right to know she married a bastard. He should not be cheating on her in the first place.
2006-10-25 19:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by bammbamm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u were the other woman u should be ashamed of yourself. do u really think that the man will leave his wife for u? would u be naive enough to think that he would be faithful to u after he's been cheating on his wife with u. nothing good can come out of affairs. it's just sordid and always ends in heartbreak. anybody who cheats is a waste of space. some woman are gullible enough to believe men's lies and fall into the trap, even believing that they are in love. wake up,men will say anything u need to hear to get what they want. have some respect for yourself and your sisters. never sleep with another woman's man because if could be your man doing the same thing to u. how do u think that would be? not so good hey?
2006-10-25 20:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were the other woman and the wife asked me i'd tell the truth. because i would have nothing to loose.. she should know her man is a dog. all truth comes out in the end.. and all truth should be told if confronted.
another thought.. why would your husband have another woman? something is wrong at home.
if the ow is not in a relationship she isnt doing anything wrong in my eyes.
he is the liar and the cheater.
i dont think the ow should be the one to take all the blame when the HUSBAND is the one MARRIED.
2006-10-25 20:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet96 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was unknowingly the other woman for five months. I broke up with him when i found out. i see no need for me tell the wife we are both the victims here. She probably wouldn't believe me anyway. I never had a sexual relationship with him and i never have even kissed him. we live bout hour away from eachother so we diidn't see eachother all the time, I met him on myspace. No more online men for me! ever! this is painful letting go of someone who you truly cared about, but i do not want someone else's man. I want MY OWN.
2006-10-26 04:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, I would never date a married man. I am a woman's woman through and through and do not believe in stepping on another toes.
I do believe in being true to who you are... Life is about choices (right or wrong) and no matter which you choose, be honest..
2006-10-25 20:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by MsElainious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this situation before. Let me explain: I was dating this guy for only a year. He was living a double life (he was an excellent liar) and I had no idea. One day I got a phone call from his "other girlfriend" asking if I was sleeping with her man. I was in shock because this was the first I was hearing about his other girlfriend. I started crying and told her this was the first I was hearing about her...of course I admitted it but told her I was clueless about this other life of his. To make a long story short, we both confronted him. I left him, she stayed.
2006-10-25 19:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by italiana2683 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her the truth and also that her husband was doing it for a reason. Normally the reason is that he doesn't have any respect for his wife or himself and that he is a loser to be a cheater.
That would get things really stirred up, wouldn't it?
2006-10-25 19:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by orygunduk1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would tell her. I would tell her b/c I would think she already
knows if she asks. This is only My thought. I have never been the other women.Neither do I ever care to be.
2006-10-25 19:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sugar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋