There's this guy that I've been friends with for over four years. Now he tells me he's gay. What should I do?
2006-10-25 12:42:00 · 17 answers · asked by Joseph_G 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Remain friends. My best friend came out to me about a year ago, and of course i was shock because i never thought in a million years he was gay, But we are still cool, and i don't treat him no different than any of my others friends. Sadly I lost some friends because they were homophobic. But that's life, you know who is truly your friends and who is just there because you popular or whatever. But i am never going to give-up my friendship with him just because he is gay. He a cool dude and i respect him coming to me openly and telling me, and you should too.
2006-10-25 12:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by Nick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my business there are many gay men around me. I enjoy their humor and they are very talented with cooking. Just enjoy your friend's company as always. Don't be surprised if he offers to show you what it is all about. Politely decline...or not...your choice, but there is not need to be stopping the friendship. I am being hit on sometimes by these men and it is no big deal. I think it is compliment that they find me attractive and I laugh and tell them I am well taken care of but thank you for offer. Being friend to a gay man is no shame to you. Ending friendship because friend is gay is big shame to you. It says you are not secure in your own sexuality if you can not maintain good friendship with him.
2006-10-25 19:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the same person who you've hung out with for 4 years. Being gay shouldn't change a good friendship.
2006-10-25 19:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by schoolot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that your friend summoned the courage to tell you that. That means he's honestly comfortable with you and trusts you with that kind of personal information. Granted, I understand you don't want him too comfortable with you in that way. As long as he knows you are into women, I doubt he would get into an awkward situation to jeapordize your friendship. Good luck!
2006-10-25 20:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been friends for over 4 years why stop now?
2006-10-25 19:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt hit on you, u can stay friends with him...but wouldnt u be a little uncomfortable being friends with him when u have to rewind the whole four years...and try to think, if he ever tried to take advantage of you, or how he interacted with you...its different when you made friends with him and u already know but, if he just came out, it will be a little difficult...but like i said, if he remained to be friends with you without any hidden agenda...keep him as your friend, if he suddenly invite you to watch 'Brokeback Mountain" just run as fast as u can...
2006-10-25 20:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very supportive of his lifestyle. You've been friends with him for 4 years, and it was probably hard for your friend to be open to you that he's gay.
2006-10-25 19:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by JenGen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept it. Do nothing different and stay his friend, unless you can't handle such a thing. Please try to NOT hurt his feelings. It's tough for those that are gay. So many out there are so nasty towards them.
2006-10-25 19:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're the kind of guy who would question what he needs to do because your friend confided in you about something..maybe it's him who should be rethinking his friendship with you.
2006-10-25 19:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by TN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be cool with it, hes been your friend until now nothing has really changed except he shared this information with you, what would you do if he shared with you he was adopted. He trusts you with his information, and thinks your a good friend. Stick with it.
2006-10-26 13:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by sharing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋