My boyfriend for 3 months, is in the really depression right now. He has been perfect BF until his birthday more that a week ago. He got depresed ( midlife crisis) and blew off our date for last Sat. and refused to talk to me on the phone at all. I called to check on him and found out that he so deep in depression..doesn't want to talk to anyone at all ( I don't think he lied) and told me not to call anymore. I asked if he want us to end the relationship, he can't even answer that either ( I don't want to but will be fine ).He said he will call me if he feel better. I am not even sure he will call at all. And I am not the type that will dump him at this down time and move on. How long shoudl I wait ? - to move on or to call him? or what else you think I should do?
2006-10-25 12:28:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Apathy and melancholy are one thing, but severe depression is somthing that must be treated. True depression is usually due chemical inbalance in the brain. See if you can get others involved so he can be motivated enough to help himself toward treatment. Good Luck.
2006-10-25 12:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what you are going through. I personally suffer from severe depression and believe me, it does not go away without aggressive medication management and therapy. Your situation sounds a little strange though - why would he not want to talk to you if you did not do anything to bring on this episode? When I went through a very severe episode not too long ago, my boyfriend (now my ex) was the only person I would talk to. Look in to what he is really doing...
2006-10-25 12:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by italiana2683 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is really depressed, when i first started dating him when we would get into a fight i did all the talking all he did was lay down and not look at me and not say a word i know how you feel i got so frustrated that i wanted to end the relationship. but later on he slowly started to open up to me a little and now after 2 years he tells me everything and how he feels so the best bet is to be patent and wait it out eventually he'll come around.
2006-10-25 12:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that I have experience, but I would give him some space then see if anyone like a friend, mother, father or someone else could talk to him. If not I would wait another week or so and see if a therapist or psychologist (or even social worker) could talk to him. If its serious, there is a chance of suicidal thoughts or something seriously devastaing as that.
2006-10-25 12:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by ~<**@$h/e@**>~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't just one day go into a deep depression...it's happens gradually.
If he's not taking medication this will go on forever. He may seem OK for awhile but he'll go back into the depression again.
If this is truly depression he's suffering from he needs to see a therapist because there's nothing you can do to help him.
2006-10-25 12:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a visit to find out what's really up! If he is really depressed he should get help. He sounds like he's being a little rude to not give you any kind of answer. I have been depressed and you can answer people when your depressed. Find out what's going on and if you think he needs help, help him get it if he wants you too but don't let him treat you disrespectful.
2006-10-25 12:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is different but believe me you have to be really patient depression is hard to get over i can tell you personally i have been fighting it for 3 yrs now good luck and if you love him stay with him but if you dont move on.
2006-10-25 12:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he found someone else i have been depressed twice in my live and it was horrible because i had no one to comfort me and that made it worst. If he doesn't want you to be there for him he is not that depressed. someone else maybe consoling him.
2006-10-25 12:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u probably did something to hurt him n u dont know about it... he wants to feel loved and asking if he wants it over just makes him feel worser.....u should call him n say sory for anything u've done orsmuggle him with affection
2006-10-25 12:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by Insignificant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice for you is to be there for him in his times of needs if you really care for him.
2006-10-25 12:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by aznflippgurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋