we were together for 19 years and he cheated and now has a 10wk or so baby girl i thought i could do it but i could not, i did try. Then he took his paycheck and went to the casino for 2 days and gave them his money. When I asked him if he had any money left he said so so I said MOVE OUT. Maybe god does work in mysterious ways. I am very sad about the situation seems such a waist to throw it all away. But it is not the first time, or the 2nd or the 3rd or .... We can go up to 100+ and still need to keep counting. We have lots of stuff from our past that we keep throwing in each others faces... I am almost 40 and really did not feel like starting over again. I have had two kids and am not the nice young pretty that I used to be. At least I had someone to come be with at night. I do not want to be alone for the rest of my life. Did I do the right thing?????
Did I do the right thing.
2006-10-25 12:25:16 · 7 answers · asked by dmp1986 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES - you have done the right thing- in time you will come to realize that
I left my husband of 24years when I was 47 ( 5years now)
I am not saying things have been easy & sure I get lonely at times but I am much more at peace with myself & I have had SO MANY people that we both knew tell me I look so much better since leaving - some saying that it was the best thing I could have done. my kids even said that - they (4) had all left home by the time I finally made the break
just take time to find out who you really are & what it is that you want out of life for yourself. get some counselling ( it helped me)
YES you will continue to feel sad about the situation for a while; after all you have spent almost half your life with this person & have 2 children to him.
do make the effort to find some interests for yourself; but keep in mind that you will probably have days when it seems just too much effort to even get out of bed- this is a MAJOR change in your life & don't listen to people who say **get over it** it will take time
LIMIT your contact with him- preferrably NONE for a while
also be wary of getting too involved with someone new too soon
I am still on my own & content to be so for now
please e-mail me if you wish to chat further
2006-10-25 12:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety you done good he is just selfish and only cares fore himself you deserve better ,far better I know you have given the best part of your life to him and look how he has treated that precious gift I suppose that you still feel he is your husband, but he lies he cheats and he doesn't care that it hurts you so yes you did the right thing .
You never know you might just find that guy out there that is looking for a girl in a woman's body but until then try being single for a while you never know you might just like a little peace and quiet in your life after all . as for a companion to be with at night we you have your kids (I know they are your kids but after a bust up you will be surprised at how different they can be ) Ladies boot their old useless men out all over the world and the large majority find life goes on and gets better so be brave and look forward to tomorrow all the best sweet lady .
2006-10-25 20:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YOU DID THE RIGHT THING FOR YOU AND THE KIDS. NOW JUST STICK TO IT AND DON'T GO BACK, YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE TO COME HOME TO. BUT FOR NOW BE HAPPY TO KNOW YOU MADE THE FIRST STEP TOWARD THE REST OF YOUR LIFE AND IT FEELS BAD AND SAD NOW JUST WAIT IT GETS BETTER. YOU DON'T HAVE TO START OVER YOUR JUST MOVING ON TO A BETTER LIFE WITH GOOD CHOICES. IF I CAN HELP 1 PERSON THEN MY LIVING IS NOT IN VAIN. BE STRONG MY SISTER, YOUR AN EXAMPLE OF THE INNER STRENGTH OF WOMEN.
2006-10-25 19:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by chayrrah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think by the sound of things you did he obivously didnt love u as much as u loved him.I hope you meet a nice man that will love u for who you are.You hear all the time about people meeting that special someone later on in life.Sit back and enjoy the start of your new life.Goodluck
2006-10-25 19:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by letmeno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think god had anything to do with it..Or maybe he drew me to this question for a reason maybe its a way of hooking us up ...Thats weird I usually never go to yahoo answers but something told me to go today and I read your question out of pure faith...send me a pic and lets talk maybe the old man in the clouds does work in crazy ways.. YES YOU DID THE RIGHT THING FOOL
2006-10-25 19:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh come on snap out of it...go get a make over..work out and get a self esteem..no one wants to be with a woman who is needy and insecure....so there...you are only 40...you act like your life is over...life begins at 40 my dear....u r still beautiful..you just don't know it...when i got divorced i was 38 i was still pretty but i worked out and i met the only man for me...we have been to gether for 5 yrs going on 6. remember men love women who are confident about themselves and not needy...You can do it....
2006-10-25 19:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I PRAYED FOR YOU.
2006-10-25 19:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋