well,im a teenager im 15years old every since i was 13years old i was feeling depressed when i was 13 i had a boyfriend that treated me like sh** and then he told said hurtful things to people about me.and now i found someone whom treats me right who loves and cares for me but he just moved... and i dont want kids because i would not make a good mother i just dont have a connection with kids... today my step father told me "i wont make a good mother because im not a good daugher". and he treats his kids like gold!he always looks down upon me..when i was 13 i put up with alot af things i made a big mistake and i wish i could change it.i wanna be happy.but right about now i judt dont know how to be...
2006-10-25 12:23:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i didnt say i wanted kids now
2006-10-26 07:53:29 · update #1
That sucks.
2006-10-25 12:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Prissy_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I am a mom of two kids and I too came from a family with a step dad. He was very abusive to myself and my sister. But my step brother OH,he was the bomb. He could do no wrong. It is so hard, but hang in there kido. I know you do not want to hear this, but stay in school, really put your heart and sole into and when you get older you can go to college and get a wonderful job and make lots of money and rub it in their faces. I can not believe your mother would allow a man to treat her kids different that his. SHAME SHAME SHAME on her. Always say your prayers and and God will be with you. He always is, even when it is really bad he is right there making you stronger for the next hall. Do not give up hon. Soon you will be 25 and and have a wonderfull life. Just always remember to believe in yourself.
xoxoxo
2006-10-25 19:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by dmp1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your family doctor that you are experiencing these feelings. The thing that happened when you were 13 is another thing you might need to discuss. If you started having sex back then, I hope you're on birth control.
BTW, guys are jerks! Your step-dad and the b/f sound like quite a pair! I suggest you find a nice guy at church. Or at least on a sports team at school. You need to include people in you life with goals and strategies for meeting these goals. Don't let a small-minded person bring you down to their level. Rise up! There's so much to see with your head held up! I hope I touched your heart and gave up something to focus on!
2006-10-25 19:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart - what the hell are you worrying about kids for? You are only 15 YEARS OLD! That's not even old enough to legally have sex! Oh my god child, you have the whole world ahead of you, finish school, go to university, get a degree, and don't be a stereotypical American.
I was clinically depressed at 14 - the only way to help yourself, if its true depression, is to go and get counselling. Children shouldn't even be on your horizon until you are in your late 20's at least! And another thing - no man on the planet is going to cure you of feeling depressed - learn to be by yourself.
2006-10-25 19:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by iliketorideigohago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate...I am 21 and still having to keep myself lifted up
But the key to getting out of depression is not allowing people to define you! I know that this is easier said than done, but once you start realizing that what they say about you is bullshit, then life starts getting easier. Counseling really helped as well. I started feeling safe in my own skin...
As far as your stepdad...he has no right to say those things about and to you. Do you have another parent or guardian or counselor you can tell and talk to? That is verbal abuse!
You are still young, so it is normal that you don't have much of a connection with kids. Hopefully this will help in you not becoming a teen mom like myself. That will just add MORE depression and issues!
He treats his kids like gold...fine, then let him. This is hurtful, yes, but know that he is having his own version of torment inside because tormentors are tormented!
Remember that the best form of revenge is success!!!
Believe in yourself!!!
You will find someone for you.
Right now, focus on getting yourself healthy! Spirit, body, and soul!!!
2006-10-25 19:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by Flighty 1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your step father is a prick! I'll say it to his face! No one should be that tactless. You should at least be happy in the knowledge that you have more class than your step dad. You understand that you require more maturity before you get pregnant. Do you know how much farther along in wisdom you are from other girls your age? I bet his kids don't turn out half as bright. Kudos from here at least!
2006-10-25 19:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple reason - you feel unwanted because you come from a broken family. This happens very often for children from broken family.
Try to get a few good friends who are really good and you will feel dfference.
Don't think that you will be a lousy mother as you are still very young and needs to be mothered. Learn to think positive and your life will be better.
2006-10-25 19:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im the same age why do you want kids at 15 gross ok i feel depressed a lot to. Find a new guy move on, if he didn't move far away see him on teh weekends but if its faar just forget him. I found a guy that i really like and he likes me hes really sweet and now im really happy
2006-10-25 19:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by no.one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get some help. Talk to a school counselor, a minister, a trusted adult. Sounds as though you've got tough row to hoe and need some help. It's available. Message me if you think it will help.
2006-10-25 19:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll get over it eventually
2006-10-25 19:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by Green Fro's are kool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋